MMC and returning to work

[jellymum1704]

Need some advice please. I found out today at 11 weeks that my baby didn’t grow after 6 weeks. The midwife said I have a delayed miscarriage . I’ve had some bleeding since this morning and mild cramps and been feeling emotional. My manager knew about my pregnancy and is quite sympathetic. Reading up online I understand I can expect heavy bleeding, clots and pain and that it can come in unexpectedly. I plan to work from home tomorrow so I have something to keep my mind off. I’m not sure about going back to work after as I worry about bleeding there. I might possibly have the option to work from home next week as my role doesn’t really need me in all days. I have another scan scheduled on Boxing Day to check if the process is complete. I’ve booked annual leave that week in any case. DH feels I should go back to work to take my mind off. I have a toddler DS who needs picking up from daycare everyday.I’m so scared and confused and can’t think straight.

Hi OP I’m so sorry you’re going through this.

When I had a MMC, my doctor signed me off sick. Is that an option for you?

I'm so sorry for what you're going though. I had a similar experience earlier this year and my advice would be that you'll need to take off more time than you think. I'm certain any gp would sign you off for a bit if needed but you should be able to self certify for a week then see how you feel.

I was exhausted for a while afterwards and very emotional fuzzy after that (I took a week off then worked reduced hours the week after). I wish I'd taken longer.

Please take care of yourself and give yourself time and space to grieve properly and acknowledge what's happened

I can self certify for a week, I’ll probably take it on a day to day basis. I’m prepared to take time off next week if I feel it gets too much. Thank you for your support.

I'm not sure actually. You can't be signed off from toddler taking and many jobs are much less effort.

Having said that I had a lot of miscarriages including one at 17 weeks and emotionally the MMC was the worst. I had a erpc because I wanted it dealt with immediately and there was hardly any bleedingcafterwards and no physical pain.

I am sorry you are going through this op