Hi
I fell pregnant in August immediately upon TTC. Sadly the pregnancy ended in a natural miscarriage at 9 weeks. I’ve been ok emotionally but physically it was extremely difficult. I really worry about the possibility of reccurance.
On one side of my family miscarriages are fairly common whilst on the other side pretty much unheard off. That did make me wonder but I know there isn’t any evidence for any link. I do also wonder about hyper fertility given how easily I fell pregnant. I also get scared about flying because after a short flight I had a strange pain at night and then my symptoms disappeared and the miscarriage started a week later. Although again there isn’t any evidence, I’ve read other ladies talk of similar experiences.
I work in a pressurised job in which there is some travel required from time to time. Although I get on with my boss I know he is someone who worries about female workers getting pregnant and doesn’t view it favourably. I would want to avoid him knowing until really necessary. Last time I was able to be really vague in order to have time off and I could probably do the same again. I don’t really feel like I can trust HR.
I know my concerns about flying have no basis but I would like to avoid it if possible and I don’t know how. Sometimes I feel like maybe I should change my job to something where being off sick and not being able to travel would be less disruptive. However I’ve worked here for many years and I would have to re build my reputation which isn’t easy
Any advice on any of this would be appreciated