Hi everyone. I'm new to mumsnet. I'm looking for some honest advice. I'm 41 and have no children. We started ttc two years ago when I was 39. I have had 4 pregnancies in that time all conceived relatively easily within 2 - 7 cycles. The first one was a mmc at 12 weeks due to a chromosome abnormality, second pregnancy we had a tfmr at 14 weeks after a horrible diagnosis at the 12 week scan (holoprosencephaly/pataus syndrome). I then had a cp followed a few months later by a mc at 6w4d which I am currently going through.
I had the NHS rmc tests after the cp as my very nice GP had pushed for it. They came back clear.
Technically my history isn't quite recurrent miscarriage. The consultant was very clear in explaining why its not rmc until its 'three in a row' as mc is common and statistically two in a row is likely and they don't count the tfmr. I'm feeling hopeless just now and at a bit of loss what to do. Given my age we think it might be worthwhile going private for more thorough testing anyway. I don't want to keep going through this and really need answers now. I will definitely try for one more pregnancy but would like a plan of action before doing so. Chances are that nothing would come up in testing and it may just be age and bad luck. I think one more will be my limit, if I lose a fifth we will probably start looking at other options to complete/start our family.
Prof Quenby and Shehata seem to be the leaders in miscarriage treatment. Can anyone tell me what the difference in their approaches is? They both appear to do immune testing. Shehata seems slightly more thorough? Or is this all a pointless waste of time given my age and poor egg quality?
All advice and opinions welcome!