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I'm having a miscarriage in need of support...

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minxy125 · 14/04/2007 17:47

Hi I'm 10.5 wks pg and started bleeding today, there were clots so I'm thinking its not a good sign.... Can't stop myself crying and feeling quite lonely at the moment. DP taken DS out for day so I could get rest, wish they were here....

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lulumama · 14/04/2007 17:51

have you any pain? i am not sure, but i think you will need a scan to confirm that you have miscarried, and nothing is retained, that could cause an infection...really sorry...

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minxy125 · 14/04/2007 17:55

Thanks, I have a dull aching like a period pain, going for scan on Monday, not looking foraward to it I would have to say.

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lulumama · 14/04/2007 18:01

i think taking some paracetomal would be ok, and maybe a warm bath

and can you take your DP with for your scan

lovelylou · 14/04/2007 19:42

Really sorry to hear that minxy125. Look after yourself chick x x

Hayls · 14/04/2007 19:45

All I can say is be good to yourself, indugle in whatever you fancy whenever you want it. Take as much time as you need to get over it, if it helps not to think about it too much then don't- at some poitn you will be able to- but if you need to think about it and grieve then that's fine. Spend lots of time with ds and get plenty of rest. Get through every day as best you can andyou will find at some point that the days are less hard when youw ake up. I have had 2 mcs recently, last one only a few weeks ago and I know how you feel. Having dd is the best treatment for me. Take care.

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minxy125 · 19/04/2007 09:59

Well was rushed by ambulance into hospital sunday as I was hemorrhaging, had a scan on monday and there was no heartbeat let out of hospital on bedrest, although I escaped a D & C can't help feeling that would of been better. Still can't believe this has happened, even after losing so much blood people were still giving false hope, you know the kind.....Well you won't know anything till the scan, and all the helpful at least you know you can conceive ok, and hey you still have a lovely DS. I know they are trying to help but I didn't! Thought I was holding it together untill I looked in bedside cabinet and found all the BFP's thought they had been thrown away, so have just sat and broke my heart over that! To top it all off SIL and 2 cousins have announced they are pg, trying really hard to be chuffed for them but can't help thinking....Why can't I be????

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EllieG · 19/04/2007 10:27

Oh honey I'm so sorry, what a sad thing to happen. Surround yourself with people who will be good for you and ignore PG family for a bit, they will understand. Your feelings are entirely natural and will pass at some point. Sending you lots of hugs xxx

barrelrider · 19/04/2007 10:51

Oh Minxy poor you Hope you feel better soon.

I had a miscarriage 2 weeks ago so I'm in a similar place. Just go with the emotions, it must be better to let it out than bottle things up.

I agree about the 'helpful' comments, makes me sick. People can be so stupid and thoughtless, far better to say nothing.

So sorry to hear about your loss.

mumto3girls · 19/04/2007 10:54

Minxy..I have been there and I know what it's like. I had 2 dd's and when i was trying for dd3 I had 4 mc's...everyone kept saying 'well at least you have children' which I thanked my lucky stars for but tit didn't fill the void that was finally filled by gorgeous dd3!!

Look after yourself and don't feel bad about feeling down for a while - it's normal.

Best of luck with trying again if/when you feel ready! xx

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minxy125 · 20/04/2007 19:50

Thanks for all your kind words and hugs! feeling emotionally drained at the moment, am trying not to look at all the magazines that seem to be filled with pg celebrities, my DS is taking my mind of things too. So sorry MC has affected so many of us, but glad that there are others to share the positive thoughts and advice (iykwim)

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jellybeans · 20/04/2007 21:32

Hi I am so very sorry for you loss . I have lost 3 babies and it is so painful. Look after yourself xxxx

DimpledThighs · 20/04/2007 21:41

minxy - I am so sorry to read what has happened to you. LEt the next few days flow over yourself and let the feelings flow too. Be nice to yourself and take one day at a time.

lissielou · 20/04/2007 21:46

ive had 4mc's inthe last 18m and i wish i could say that it gets easier, but you must grieve for your little darling. its totally natural to feel resentful and jealous of others but that WILL pass and if you need to talk you can cat me. if you dont have cat i will give you my e-mail. i doubt i can help but i can be an ear x

going4potty · 20/04/2007 22:33

So sorry to hear about your loss. May you be blessed with patience, hope and faith in the future

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