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Insensitive husband

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confusedwife84 · 15/10/2017 22:07

This week is baby loss awareness week. DH and I were sitting and he was flicking through his Instagram feed and someone he follows put up a post about a miscarriage they’d had in the past and remembering this little baby, and he said “I hate when people put up stuff like that, i wish they’d keep it to themselves” this has greatly offended me considering I had a miscarriage over a year ago and still think of that little one very frequently. I can’t put into words the reason this has hurt me so much...as though miscarriages should just be dealt with quietly and forgotten about. Aaarrrgh.
Sorry for vent.

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ferntwist · 17/10/2017 20:00

I don't blame you, that is so insensitive of him considering what you've been through. Hugs

Brienne · 30/10/2017 08:36

My DH just doesn't get it. I had 2 miscarriages a year ago and we've now given up trying and are concentrating on DD (3)
He thinks you just get over it. In truth, I don't think you ever do. You just learn to live with it. I've given up talking about it with him. I had some counselling and the counsellor told me to rely on different people for different things. Trouble is, there isn't really anyone I can talk to about this....

MissL85 · 13/11/2017 15:39

I've recently had a miscarriage at 5 weeks and 2 days. I'm absolutely devastated and frequently start crying. My OH says that I was too eager too soon. I mentioned about it being a baby; he said he didn't see it as a baby. I'm desperate to try again as soon as possible; he isn't.

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