JUST MISCARRIED: NEED ADVICE

[patkica]

Just had a m/c at 5 weeks. I'm obviously devastated, though I had an odd feeling about it from the start. I have a ds of 3.5 and as I am 39 I would like to try again soon. I got pregnant first time round with ds and after 2 months this last time. I hope that is positive. Can anyone let me know when it's ok to begin again and how I count this bleeding? Should it count as a period? I know this sounds clinical, but trying to stay optimistic is keeping me going. Any happy stories would be appreciated too. It's so very sad.

No, don't count this as a period. Wait until you have had another period so that you can calculate the date of ovulation. I'm sorry things went so wrong this time. Good luck with TTC again.

so sorry to hear this patkica. I had a miscarriage 2 years ago and was told to wait 2 months to try again. I think it was mostly so that you could date the next pregnancy but I felt that maybe my body wasn't ready for another pregnancy straight away anyway - nor my emotions to be honest.

We waited 2 months then started trying again but it took us a year to conceive (I was 38). Happy story though as DS3 is now 7 weeks old and absolutely gorgeous but it seemed like a long journey from the miscarriage to now.

Good luck.

So sorry to hear this patkica...its just horrible.

I was in the same boat last Oct/nov, miscarried at 7 wks and like you wanted to try again asap. It was actually about 7 weeks til i had another period so was end of dec...i then got pg again in Jan and am due in early Oct.

I dont think it sounds clinincal at all...a lot of people on the m/c threads have felt exactly the same. Im not sure how you can actually count this cycle, not v good on the technicalities im afraid.

Good luck and take things easy for the next couple of weeks

Thanks everyone. That really helps and the thread was fab. I do want to try again soon, but I don't know how to test for ovulation. It was very early but still feel so sad, weepy and teary.

hi patkica had m/c last august didn,t know what had hit me given lots of advice on do's and dont's i did wait till my 1st proper cycle in sept and we fell again in nov so now just over halfway there and all going ok, but let your bod do the talking you'll know x x x

Hi patkica, sorr you've had a m/c, it's never easy. wrt to trying again, I fell pg 2 weeks after my 1st m/c so it is possible. I wouldn't recommend it though as it was a very hard painful pregnancy with lots of bleeding and cramps - I know this could have happened anyway but I put it down to my body not being ready - my m/c was at 16 weeks though so perhaps it would be easier for you.

Good luck whatever you decide.

Had a m/c at 10 weeks when I was 35. Got pregnant 4 months later. Now have 2 perfect children 3.7 and 22 weeks. Had my last at almost 40 so just keep trying. I waited a complete cycle and had no problems in either of my subsequent pregnancies and I was an older mum.

Thanks again all. I am always amazed at how supportive people are on mnet and it really, really helps, especially when I feel so teary. The more advice and stories I get the better. My normal GP is away and her stand in has been anything but helpful.

I'm 30 and have had 3 mcs, all seemingly unlinked - I also have a ds of nearly 2 and am 17 weeks pg again. Mc is terribly, devastatingly common - it doesn't help when you're going through with it, but knowing that might help to give you hope. There is (usually) no medical reason against trying again once the bleeding has stopped - emotional reasons might be more of a reason to wait; I found after my third mc the thought of getting pg again terrified me for a couple of months. Take care.

Thank you all so much. I know I'm not the only one and it helps to know that other women understand. I've moved on to the TTC after mc thread and I think that will help. Congratulations to all of you who are pregnant or who had babies after your mc and best of luck to everyone. Hooray for mnet.