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Miscarrage after ivf using donor sperm

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Hollie31 · 30/09/2017 14:32

I don't usually write on forums but looking for advice from anyone that's experienced a miscarriage. 6 weeks ago I had a silent miscarriage/ERPC at 8 weeks pregnant following our first ivf cycle. I was devastat ed and probably quite naive to miscarriage. I bought baby books and a "I'm going to be a mum" tshirt when we announced our news to our family. We would have waited till 12 weeks but family and close friends were aware we were having ivf. I was devasted initially and cried and cried and cried. Now 6 weeks later I keep getting angry out bursts over small little things which end in me crying.uncontrollably. I feel I have no control over my emotions and I'm finding it frustrating. These outbursts have only been either towards or around my other half. Dinner went wrong today and it resulted in me chucking all the food out. Not eating any lunch,having a go at my parter and crying for an hour. I feel like I want to start smoking again and/or start anti depressants as I've been on them before but if I want to start a new ivf cycle I can't do either so currently resisting. I don't know if I want to do another cycle and even questioning if I want a baby now. We are using donor sperm too and I feel like so much is stacked against us. When do things get better?

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MillicentFawcett · 30/09/2017 14:38

Oh you poor thing. Miscarriage really is just one of those things that happens but I can imagine it's much harder after IVF. I had a missed miscarriage at 14 weeks which was just devastating.

Take as long as you need to grieve over this lost baby. All the emotions you feel are absolutely normal - they're not helped by the plummeting hormones that follow a miscarriage. I was very, very angry for a long time but I did move on.

My DS is donor conceived and so it definitely can work for you. The fact that you conceived first time is really positive. Try and hold onto that if you can Flowers

Hollie31 · 02/10/2017 07:05

Thanks for your reply and I'm sorry for your loss. Its frustrating when you just want to feel normal again but I guess patience is key. Nice to hear you have a positive outcome to your donor concieved son. X

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