6 days post ERPC... is this normal?

[Seasidegirl74]

Hi ladies
I had an ERPC 6 days ago. This in itself was very unexpected as I'd miscarried 6 weeks previously and was having a scan for something else when it was found I'd had an incomplete miscarriage. I feel like I've gone back several stages in the grief process as I had even had the BFN a couple of weeks earlier.
Anyway, i only bled for a day after the ERPC and had cramps for a couple of days then other than feeling exhausted I've been physically OK. This morning (6 days on) I've got quite bad cramping and some bleeding. Emotionally I feel terrible today too... An overwhelming feeling of anxiety, a feeling of doom almost.
Is all this normal??

Hi there. So sorry to hear what you've gone through. I have just had my second missed miscarriage and second ERPC in just over three months. After the first one, I definitely felt like you...extreme anxiety and fear. I could barely get on the train to work without my heart racing and having the feeling of doom you talk about. I was really surprised by this feeling as it is so unlike anything I've experienced before.

The second ERPC was only a few days ago. I feel like I'm coping slightly better this time around but actually I think it might just be too early to say.

I hope you've been able to take some time off work and have got some good support? It's tough...but know that you are not alone and those feelings are very normal.

Thanks for replying. So sorry to hear of your losses. I had a miscarriage at 19 weeks when I was in my 20s and in it was hard this seems so much worse. I don't know if it's because i had an ectopic a few months ago which I know I didn't really register if that makes sense (I didn't even know I was pregnant until I had the pain from the ectopic) so I'm grieving for that loss now as well. Also I'm now in my 40s and so feel like time is running out.

It's reassuring to know what I'm feeling is 'normal' but also horrible to think that others feel the same as it is currently so debilitating. I'm off work so that is good. My partner isn't being very supportive... He lives away (we are currently buying a house and he is moving up here) and he also suffers from clinical depression and so I feel I can't tell him exactly how I feel as I don't want him getting worse. It has hit him hard as well. I just want to fast forward and get through all this!