Advice

[Griffin252]

Hello, I've come over from the pregnancy boards because until this morning I thought everything was okay but wondered if anyone on here has any advice/stories.

Ive just had an early scan, thought I was 7+5 based on the NHS calculator but was measured at 6+1 and there was a slow and irregular heartbeat. They've booked me in to go back in two weeks.

I just wondered if anyone has experienced this and what the outcome was?

Reading online I can see this happens but no one ever talks about the outcome. Is that because it's bad.

I'm preparing myself for the worst but if anyone has personal experiences I'd be interested to hear. I am a realist to the fact they won't necessarily be good.

Thanks

Two weeks is a hell of a long time to wait in this situation. I would ask if they would be willing to see you in a week instead.

I have experienced this (scan at 6+5, only a yolk sac seen so told 5+6 at most when I knew the exact day I have conceived) and I'm sorry to say it wasn't a good outcome for me.

I became pregnant again quite quickly though and now that my baby is here my losses feel very much behind me.

I'm afraid that in your shoes I would prepare yourself for bad news, unless you have a very irregular cycle and might have ovulated much later than expected. Scans aren't always accurate to the day but 11 days is a lot to be behind where you expected and a slow heartbeat is often a sign the pregnancy is failing. When I was scanned and dated at 5 weeks when I should have been 7, I knew it was over.

Two weeks is a long time to wait for a second scan but they will need to be absolutely sure by seeing a lack of progression on the 2nd scan. I would try and get seen after a week instead, and in the meantime it might be worth physically preparing in case you start bleeding.

My miscarriage was devastating at the time but my next pregnancy gave me a wonderful little boy and now I rarely think of it. I hope you get good news, but if you don't, you will at least find great support on here.

I have experience, and no it was not a good outcome. Last time it limped on for weeks though...growing but not enough, and with a poor heartrate. That;s unusual though.

Sorry.

Thanks ladies.

I'm going to call tomorrow and see if they will see me sooner. I'm actually going on holiday until 12th anyway so can't see them until after that but I will try for the day after. Even a few days will help.

Thanks for being honest, the sonographer didn't sound hopeful so I have been preparing myself today.

When you say prepare physically, what do you mean exactly? This is my first pregnancy/potential miscarriage, which may now potentially happen in Italy... I'd like to prepare myself as much as I can.

It's hard to be definitive because the experience is different for everybody... For some people it's just a "bad period", for others it is very painful and physically distressing.

There is a thread on the miscarriage and pregnancy loss section about practical aspects of miscarriage. For now, I'd get in some super sanitary towels, some painkillers (preferably codeine or something stronger than paracetamol), and perhaps some trashy mags or something if they help distract you.

Ps. I'm sorry this is happening to you

Thank you. I've got sanitary products sorted and paracetamol... I think we have stronger in the cupboard so I'll take that just in case.

I'll also have a read of the other board too.

Didn't expect this the day before we go away, was just hoping for pre holiday reassurance!

Thanks for your support.

So so sorry you are experiencing this. I'm afraid my experience was also bad. I was supposed to be at least 7+3 at my early scan - I'd been tracking ovulation and sex so knew exactly when it was. But it measured 6 weeks though had a heartbeat. Sonographer just kept saying I'd got my dates wrong, even though I was insistent I hadn't.

Had some very faint pink bleeding starting weds week before last, same Sunday, before more bleeding, red this time, mon and the. Confirmed MMC on tues with scan as it hadn't grown since last scan.

Had medical management yesterday.

People might think not appropriate to put this but want you to be prepared, as otherwise you might freak which isn't good if you're away. If you are miscarrying naturally, be prepared to feel it coming out - that and clots. I wouldn't look in the toilet afterwards if I were you. Maybe put Tena lady knickers over your pads whilst you're away.

I really really hope the outcome is different for you. But we are all here if the worst happens. Good luck xxx

Sorry this is happening to you Another one here with a bad experience, I'm afraid. My situation was slightly different in that I was nearly 11w and measured at 5w, so there was absolutely no chance of things being ok - I would have had to have a positive test before I conceived
I won't go into the details of the actual experience, but I will say make sure you have health insurance and when you get on holiday, make sure you can access medical care if needed. I would have been in a very bad situation without it.
I went on to have another early mc (although a much less traumatic one!) but did fall pregnant again straight after that and that one worked out. Fingers crossed it doesn't come to that for you, but fwiw I think preparing for bad news is sensible. Best of luck with everything