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Miscarriage/pregnancy loss

Find support and share your experiences on our Miscarriage forum. See also legal rights and support after baby loss.

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Recurrent miscarriage what to do next

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user1497292248 · 01/09/2017 10:21

I guess if your reading this your in the same situation and I'm sorry for your loss.
I'm currently going through my second mc. Last one being in June. Somehow I've managed to be referred to the John Radcliffe to see gynaecologist. This initially was to talk about clomid, however I'm guessing I don't need this seeing as I've been pregnant twice now. My GP has said to still go to the appointment as they deal with miscarriage aswell. I did think you had to have at least 3 miscarriages in order to be referred so am I likely to be turned away when I get there?
Im feeling like I want to give up. I know people have had many more miscarriages and go on to have a healthy baby. I'm most scared of a late mc now. I don't think I'd ever come back from that. Does anyone out there have any happy stories to tell! 🙏🏻

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Fia256 · 01/09/2017 12:17

Hiya, I don't have a happy story yet to share but just wanted to say I know how you are feeling.

I lost two babies last year at 7 and 5 weeks, then in June this year I lost a little boy at 16 weeks. And now today I'm starting to bleed at 4 weeks, so this is number 4 in a row for us.

You seem to have a good gp on your side to have been referred. I had an awful time at the drs yesterday and had to literally beg sobbing for a referral even though this is number 4!

Don't loose hope, I'm trying not to even though luck doesn't seem to be on my side. As you say, lots of people do go on to have a healthy baby and I'm sure one day we will both get that. And with the help of seeing a specialist I'm sure that will happen for you.

Sorry to not have a good story, but I'm here now if you ever want a good rant or let it all off your chest! It's so frustrating to wonder why me all the time xxx

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user1497292248 · 01/09/2017 14:09

Hi Fia256, thanks for your reply. I'm sorry for what you've been through. I'm most scared of losing a baby later along the line like yourself at 16 weeks or later. It was bad enough at 9 weeks. I can't imagine what that was like for you.

To be honest I'm not sure how I managed to get referred. I think it maybe because I'm 36! It's amazing how being just over 35 makes u eligible for referrals! I may get to the John Radcliffe and get turned away but I hope not!

I keep being told that your more likely to miscarry in the first trimester but I know that's not true! Surely if you miscarried at 16 weeks (second trimester) they have to refer you! There could be a simple answer that will prevent that happening again. You sound very brave, keep your chin up! I hope it happens for you soon xxx

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Viviennemary · 01/09/2017 14:14

I haven't experienced a miscarriage but know a lot of people who have had miscarriages either before or between babies. Statistically you are more likely to miscarry in the first 12 weeks. If you've been referred I cant see that you'll be turned away. They will just check to see if there's an underlying cause or unexplained. Hope you get good news soon.

SecondaryQuandary · 01/09/2017 14:17

I have PCOS and have had 4 pregnancies without Clomid or anything, two resulting in MMCs, 1 DS now 13 and 1 DD now 11.

Hang in there. x

Floweroct2 · 01/09/2017 14:24

So sorry for your losses. I had three mc all before 12 weeks over a period of 3 years as I also struggle to get pregnant. I now have a 15month old as a result of ivf. I'm sure they won't turn you away now you have an appt. I had been referred for a fertility appt before I fell pregnant naturally I went to the appt after my first mc and they were happy to discuss both fertility and mc. I know it's hard but the chances of you having a happy ending are on your side x

keeponrunning85 · 01/09/2017 17:20

So sorry for your losses.

I don't think you'll be turned away. I think if you're over 35 you can be referred after 2 miscarriages. A sympathetic GP referred me to fertility clinic after 2 miscarriages and they were happy to see me and do some more tests. If they weren't happy to see you they would have rejected the referral.

Sadly I don't have a happy ending to share, not yet anyway. After 2 more losses I'm waiting to have some surgery on my uterus in 5 weeks. Fingers crossed we'll have some luck after that.

I hope you get some answers.

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user1497292248 · 01/09/2017 17:32

Hi keeponrunning85
Thanks for your msg. Why are you having surgery on your uterus? If you don't mind me asking? I'm sure I won't get turned away either, i must just have a nice GP! She was pregnant so maybe she felt bad for me ☺️!
Keep in touch and let me know your progress xx

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keeponrunning85 · 02/09/2017 11:05

I have a partial bicornate (heart shaped) uterus with a septum. The surgery is going to remove as much of the septum as possible because it doesn't have a good enough blood supply to support a pregnancy so if the embryo implants there it'll end in miscarriage.

My third miscarriage was due to a chromosomal problem hence having to have a fourth before the consultant was willing to do the surgery.

I hope it'll prove to be the solution but I don't really believe it will. I think we will only have one more go and at least I'll be able to feel something is different next time.

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user1497292248 · 02/09/2017 14:29

I will keep my fingers crossed!
If it's a chromosome abnormalitie do the docs say to keep trying?? I don't really understand it all yet! Have got my appointment in oct. Would you ever consider sarogacy? I've been thinking about this a lot

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keeponrunning85 · 03/09/2017 10:11

I think it depends on the chromosomal problem. Mine was a 'just one of those things' problem and not something that should reoccur. So we've only had the chromosomal testing on the actual pregnancies rather than ourselves. At the clinic we went to they test the pregnancy firstand then only test the parents if a chromosomal problem which is likely tobe inherited shows up.

I personally wouldn't go down the surrogacy route. I think it is an option for some people, but I wouldn't feel comfortable asking that of someone. Also, I have a couple of gay friends who are perusing it at the moment and it seems like and absolute minefield. We've decided that one more try and then looking into adoption is the way we are going to go.

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user1497292248 · 04/09/2017 17:38

I find the most frustrating thing is when I had my first mc the docs said oh it's so common and it prob won't happen again, then it happens again and I get the same thing oh it's so common and I'm like so which is common???? Mc more than once or twice or what 😡
I know they just tell u what u want to hear but u go into every pregnancy thinking it won't happen again and it does! Anyone else had this with docs?

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Sodijo · 15/09/2017 16:40

Hi, I am new here.. I had recently two misscarriages, one in May 2017 and in Sep 2017 just a week ago. In the first mc, we lost the baby at 8 weeks..on the second we discovered that was an empty sac. I am really suffering at the moment but try to stay calm. I had never any issues with my health ( apart from low level of hemoglobin ), I am 31 yrs old and have a healthy lifestyle. I haven't done any testing yet, do you know a good clinic that I could visit in London? Do you know an estimated cost? Does this has happened to anyone else in th forum? How you have faced that?

P.S. In both pregnancies, I had brown blood spotting. I had always brown blood 4-5 days before my period starts. Does any of you have the same? The GP cannot provide an explanation on that.. Do you think this related to my misscarriages??? Please help

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