Miscarriage at 9 weeks

[123dawn]

I found out on Friday that I had lost my baby - I had the tiniest bit of brown spotting and went to the early pregnancy clinic to get it checked out - really not expecting there to be a problem, but I was told there was no heartbeat. I was 9+4, and the baby measured just over 9 weeks, so it must have happened just a couple of days before.

I am booked to have an ERPC this coming Friday, and am so worried about miscarrying naturally in the meantime. I haven't had any cramps or bleeding yet, but I no longer have any morning sickness or pregnancy tiredness and it seems a long time to wait.

I am 40 and have other children, for which I am so grateful. I desperately want to try again, but I am worried that I am now too old and this is nature's way of telling us to stop. But all I can think about is being pregnant again and how I am running out of time.

Any advice on how to get through this terrible time would be so very appreciated.

Allow yourself time, cry, and grieve for what should of been

I named my two babies that I lost at 7 weeks and 12 weeks, it help me but not everyone feels the same

I'm sorry you're going through this

I'm going to say the next thing because I'd wished someone had said it to me. Think about having a container available incase you miscarry naturally and then you can decide whether you want to look later and not at the time which will probably be too much. The 7 week one there wasn't anything much to see the 12 week one was much harder mentally mainly because it happened in an hospital toilet just before epu scan and much later in development.