How can I help?

[Heartbroken47]

My niece and God daughter was due to deliver her first child on Weds. I am on holiday and live in UK and my niece and sister are in Australia. I've just got back to hotel to a Facebook private message from my sister saying baby has died and they are waiting for my niece to deliver.
She said she will call/message tomorrow.
So heartbroken for them - I know I can't take away the pain, but should I send flowers, a letter/card?
Might it help to send links to support organisations near to her or will the hospital take care of that?
Will there be a funeral?
Thank you

I'm so sorry to hear this. My friend had a still born baby. It was really important to her that people thought of her baby as a person and used her (baby's) name. Some flowers and a card where you mention the baby by name would be appropriate. Then every so often a little note/ email saying you are thinking of them and you're there to talk if needed. There will likely be a funeral/memorial service of some sort. My friend had one organized by the hospital for all the still born babies that month, but some choose to do an individual one.

No advice just wanted to say I'm so sorry to hear that, your poor niece

So sorry to hear that. I am sure she would appreciate a card and flowers, that's a very kind thought. As the baby died after 24 weeks, there will have to be a death certificate and it's likely there will be a small funeral.

So sorry to hear this, I would definitely send a card and flowers. Also maybe something like a photo album or memory box would be nice in time. I can't imagine the pain she is going through. I lost a baby early and I know it can't compare to such a devastating loss but I keep a little box of memories in our bedroom.

It is so lovely that you want to help. I lost my firstborn and i have to say it nearly killed me. When i lost her thats when i found this site and the members were so lovely.
As previous posters have said mention her baby dont avoid it. Thats the hardest. I felt as if i had to stay stromg because everyone else around me was falling apart.
Her and her partner could be up and down i know i was.....
Numbness came first but when i smiled i felt as if thats why i lost her....i didnt deserve her because i didnt act the way you would expect someone to who has just lost a baby.
But believe me there is no right or wrong way to act after such a life changing loss. And when the numbness faded and the grief really took a grip it hit full force. Be prepared for any eventuality. One minute she could be fine, the next minute she could be angry, suicidal or crying like a baby.
But even regular messages just to let them know you are thinking of them means more than you know.
Us angel mommies take pride in our angel babies just as much as we do out earth babies. And to hear my daughters name spoken is music to my ears even now 5 years on.
It is so lovely of you to want to help and hopefully they have good people like yourself around them to help them on thos rollercoaster xx

Thank you so much everyone. I'm so sorry for your loss Coco. Did you go on to have more children? I've sent some links to Australian helplines on the topic to my sister.
Thank you

Hi heartbroken. Yes i have had 2 more children after my firstborn.
I had my firstborn 2012, my rainbow 2013 and my baby of the family in 2014.
And sending helplines are a great thing to do. Then they have the option to speak to them if they want to.
I really hope they pull through xx