Miscarriage advice

[Rebhad94]

Hello,

I found out last Wednesday at my scan that my baby unfortunately had no heart beat (12 weeks). I had a scan 2 weeks prior and all was ok! As I've had no symptoms or pains this was quite a shock, since then I have been having shooting pains all over my stomach, lower back pains and some diahrea, feeling hot, all of these seem worse today. I've had no bleeding yet and I am going back to hospital tomorrow to get booked in for a surgical to have it removed :(

Can anyone advice me if you have experienced this before, will I start bleeding naturally at any point before I go in for my procedure? Are my symptoms that are getting stronger a sign that it will happen soon?

Has anyone gone for the surgical and can tell me how it was?

Thankyou ladies

Firstly I'm so sorry for your loss. Miscarriage is horrendous and I still feel really sad about mine 18 months later.

My situation was similar to yours, however I started bleeding before going back for an appointment and ended up passing everything naturally. I did get issues with retained tissue and in hindsight wished they had continued with the procedure anyway, because it led to further complications and tons of antibiotics.

I must warm you the bleeding can be heavy and the pain can be really bad. I had a lifetime of bad period pain but this was much worse. However if you feel it's too much please go to the hospital to get it checked. I called a and e before going as it was early on a Sunday morning and they were great- they got the on call gynaecologist and she was really helpful. I mainly went because I didn't know the bleeding/pain were supposed to be that bad- I was handed a leaflet and shoved out the door when I initially found out at the scan, no one told me what to expect.

Hopefully you find my post helpful- it's certainly not my intention to scare you but I wish someone had told me what to expect when I went through it. If I ever have one again, I'd choose surgical.

Take care of yourself xx

So sorry to hear about what has happened to you. Usually with my miscarriages, cramps have been followed by bleeding after about four hours. The cramps are worst earlier on but are bearable. Get yourself as comfortable as you can, with everything you need around you: towels, pads, painkillers, hot water bottle, pillows, drinks. If you would like to try to save the tissue for testing or see your fetus, a sieve to use when you go to the loo. This always makes me feel much better but isn't always possible.
For me, the cramps always come and go and you can use deep breathing to get through each one. They're like period pains, a bit more intense at the beginning. I push too to help tissue come out. It's your miscarriage, you're in control.
Good luck and I hope it all goes well if things do start before your procedure.

Hi Rebhad

Sorry to hear this is happening to you. I've gone through something similar recently - if you find the 'can you share your mmc experiences' thread, that's me.

I found out at 8+4 that there was no heartbeat, waited a week to see if anything happened naturally. It didn't. And I ended up making myself ill about it all.

I was scheduled for surgery 2 days after asking for it. It was absolutely fine and I wouldn't hesitate to do it again if I needed to. I know there's risks with it, but I genuinely couldn't cope with the limbo period waiting for something to happen.

That was last wk. They told me to expect some bleeding for a couple of weeks but I've had barely anything. Just a bit of brownish discharge. I was just so relieved to have it over with so we could move on.

Any questions, pls ask. I hope this all goes as well as can be expected for you x

I'm so sorry Rebhad, it's a horrible time. I've had two ERPCs (surgical management). With the first I had lost a lot before the procedure and was sure they wouldn't need to go ahead, but apparently more was retained. so like lilforest suggests, it's often worth going ahead with the procedure.

I'm sure everyone experiences ERPCs differently and they suit some more than others, but for me they've been straightforward. Nil by mouth from midnight before, general anaesthetic that is as minimal as possible. you're away from the recovery room for about an hour total. They give you some meds to soften your cervix just before, so you may start cramping. You stay about 2 hours following the procedure and have to eat something before they'll let you go home. You have to be chaperoned. For me it's been light bleeding afterwards but some people have heavier bleeding and about 5 in 100 need further intervention.

I don't want to minimise the experience - it's traumatic, but I don't think I could have waited to miscarry naturally.

Wishing you all the best xxx

So sorry to hear of your loss there are a lot of mumsnetters that have been through this and are a great support at this time (IME)

Things may start naturally do best put plans on hold and snuggle up.

Thinking of you

Thankyou ladies your advice has been helpful, I went to the hospital yesterday and I am booked in for tomorrow 7am. The nurse said I miscarried at 11.3 days but my body hasn't realised hence why I haven't bled. She said I shouldn't have any pain afterwards. Did any of you ladies experience pain after leaving the hospital? x

Other than some mild period-type cramping the following day, none at all. They sent me home with painkillers and took some to go to bed just in case (I needed a good night's sleep after sleeping badly durinh the week run up!) but probably didn't need them x

No, a little mild cramping and feeling woozy from the GA - only needed two paracetamol before the surgery (to help with any early cramping from the meds they give you prior to surgery) and a hot water bottle at home.
All the very best tomorrow, I hope you're well looked after

Just a updated, I had my surgery yesterday I had quite a traumatic time I lost a lot of blood in theatre (1 litre) and they had to keep me in longer then expected, everyone there was lovely and it made such a different. Very emotional day, but I'm home now the pain isn't bad and the bleeding has stopped. Did any of you ladies get a memory box? I got one and it's beautiful, it should really help me. x

So sorry it was so traumatic for you. make sure you take it easy and look after yourself. Lots of steak and spinach if you're not a vegetarian. Have they given you iron supplements? If not I'd consider getting some as it's better to help build it up straight away rather than leave it. I didn't get a memory box but really wish I had. DH and I went to the beach the day we found out and it was empty, clear blue sky's and sunny and it was weirdly peaceful watching the waves. We still go there now every now and again for a special day. I'm glad your home safe now. Thinking of you in this difficult time xx

Hello. Thank you for sharing your experience. This happened to me yesterday at my 12 week scan. Should have been 12+1 and baby measured 11+5. Have opted for surgery and that's happening tomorrow am. I'm scared.

I wasn't given any thing to go home with just codiene, they did lots of blood tests before letting me out so I'm guessing all went back to normal. I'm just laying up today, my bleeding stopped completely last night. I'm going to do something special to remember when I'm up to it.

Beanhunter don't be scared it's just very emotional, you will be well looked after in the hospital. Good luck xxx