Help please

[K0013]

Hi all, I need a bit of advice or perhaps reassurance please? Nearly two weeks ago I started spotting just a tiny bit of brown blood, it took until four days later until a little bit of red blood appeared. Went for a scan on Tues and confirmed an empty sac at about 6/7 weeks when I thought I should have been 8-12weeks. Ive now had two blood tests which they have told me this morning that my levels have only went down a little bit. They wanted me to do another blood test tomorrow but I explained that I am definitely miscarrying as there has been quite a bit of blood and I have been loosing quite a few clots and been in a bit of pain. So they have decided I should go back for a blood test on thurs instead.

Apologies for the long post, I'm just not sure how long this is meant to go on for? I have been off work since Wed and I'm feeling guilty as I don't want to go back until this is over. I also don't feel like I can process the loss emotionally until this part is over. The EPU midwife told me to come in if I lost a lot of blood or was in a lot of pain but I thought this was to be expected? I suffer from anxiety and I'm trying so hard not to freak out. I feel so lost and confused.

Im so sorry for your loss and that you are having to go through this, it's awful. I also think it can be a very lonely experience.

With my most recent mc, I went to EPU after some bleeding and measured 6 weeks when I should have been 10. I was told to return in two weeks for a follow up scan but I started to miscarry naturally the following day. I was in a lot of pain and there was a fair amount of blood until I passed the sac late in the evening and since then the physical side has been quite bearable.

I have had 3 miscarriages. First I was given an EPRC at 11 weeks (which I would have opted for this time given the chance), the second was an earlier loss of 6 weeks which I powered through not taking any time off work and I think, as a result, my health really suffered.

What I have learnt this time is that it really is OK to take time off and look after yourself. It is a very physically and emotionally draining experience that you can't really prepare yourself for and your well being comes before your job.

Take care xx

I meant to add that the bleeding does seem to go on for quite a while and the pain comes and goes but if you are concerned then don't feel bad about contacting your EPU.

I'd also suggest giving your GP a call and asking to be signed off for a week. I did this and there was no hesitation on their part - it made me feel like I had permission to take time off to heal without feeling guilty about it xx

Hey K0013,

They usually say 2 weeks and it shouldn't pass naturally. If it doesn't, then you'll have to decide if to keep waiting or have a tablet to get rid of the sac (oral or vagibally) then it will come out after a few hours. Last option is minroe surgery (like D&C). I've just taken the tablet on Tuesday so I'm still dealing just like you. It will get better and you'll get through it. Plan to take however long it takes, I took this entire week but I'm further along, I suggest you might need to go back to work then if it passes naturally perfect, but if after 2 weeks it hasn't, then tell them and it will be a scan and a Decision and they act on the decision immediately if it's tablet but if it's surgery you may have to wait a couple of days but whatever your choice expect an additional 3 days off work.

Hope this helps you and I'm so sorry you've had to go through this experience 😕🤗

Thank you both so much for your replies. I am so sorry for your losses and hope you are both doing ok x

Yes okay just taking it easy, but you know what's comforting, to know that others are going through it at the same time as you and feeling the same loss because sometimes partners aren't as emotionally understanding as another woman going through it so thank you for sharing your pain xxx

Yes that's very true. My husband has been so supportive but if he says to me one more time 'you seem better now' I may break his nose 😊 Xx

Oh no not the nose!!!! The finger maybe :)

Mines saying 'we gotta move on' and my response is let's just be upset together a little you know. Stop keeping it together just break down like me, but no, secretly and openly he just wants me to snap out of it!!

You know, eating has been a struggle but then I discovered strawberry cornetto ! Now on box 3! Helppppppp 😜

Lol cornetto's sound good. I have been eating my weight in chocolate and believe me that's a lot of chocolate 😊 X

Oh yes - an ice cream and chocolate diet here too

lol singingstarfish, welcome back!

All the happy hormones are hidden in chocolate and ice cream! We've discovered the secret. The trick would be knowing when we're happy enough to stop and go back to healthy portions....2 more weeks maybe 😂

I think you are on to something User - Happy hormones are definitely hidden in chocolate buttons Sadly I have run out and need to leave my pit shortly to stock up.

Two weeks sounds fair although I expect I'll be well and truly back to my sugar addiction by then which will take another six months to get under control (was doing so well before this, dammit!)

Thoughts to you both (and I hope you haven't broken your husband's nose yet K0013 ) xx

I'm trying to control myself singingstarfish as long as I have chocolate to distract me I can refrain from hurting him 😊

How are you ladies doing? Are we all back to normal now and getting on with life?

Hey User,

Nice to hear from you!

I am feeling surprisingly OK. Out of my 3 mcs, I think this one has been my least traumatic both physically and emotionally and I have recovered quite well. I have a lot going on (moving house!) and although I'm going to keep with the vits I think I'm at peace with the fact that due to my age, my dd will be my only. I'm struggling to get off the chocolate though!

How are you both getting on? X

I'm okay. I had to have surgical management on Wednesday because after tablets it didn't clear it out. I'm feeling like it's going to be okay now so just waiting for the last bits to clear.

So glad you're doing well xxx

Hi ladies so sorry I forgot this was my thread lol. Glad you are doing well singingstarfish 😊 User hope you are ok and it's over for you soon.

I posted a new thread, struggling a bit with headaches which aren't normal for me and general yuckiness. Just want to feel 'normal' again xx