Struggling after a miscarriage

[Lissaaa]

I was hoping someone could help me. I've just had a miscarriage whilst on holiday. I had some bleeding when I first found out I was pregnant so went to the epu and had a private scan at 9 and 10 weeks. Both of these scans showed a good little heartbeat. Then during my holiday I had some bleeding so went to the local hospital to get checked. Had a scan and their was no heartbeat. The Dr said it stopped just after the 11th week. I then had to stay in hospital and have a procedure (not sure of the actual name of it) I'm really struggling as I still feel pregnant, even though I'm obviously not anymore. I also can't get the image of the final scan out my head and the flatline of the heartbeat. I was hoping coming home would help me, but it hasn't I just feel so much worse. I just feel so alone and sad.

I'm so sorry. What an awful thing to go through. Are you at home now or still on holiday?
I'm going through a miscarriage at the moment and I get what you mean about still feeling pregnant, even seeing an empty scan hasn't stopped my brain!
Time is all I can suggest. Just be gentle with yourself and allow yourself time to get over this at your own pace xx

So sorry to read this.

You need time to grieve and go easy on yourself.

It's a horrible and traumatic experience, I've been there too.

Do you have much support?

I'm so sorry.

The same thing happened to me 2 weeks ago almost.
My baby was fine at my scan at 13 weeks and his heart stopped just after that. At 14-15 weeks I was induced and gave birth to him in the 2nd July.

I fell into a very deep awful depression and I'm trying desperately to claw my way out.
I'm due to go on holiday in two weeks.
I would have had a nice bump by then :-(

There's no beating round the bush, it's fucking hard.

Way harder than I ever realised. I keep thinking what did I do wrong? Did I eat something, drink something, carry something too heavy?
I can't get away from all these thoughts.

I personally have got so depressed I started seeing a therapist today.

It's something to consider if you really can't see your way out.

I'm so sorry for your loss. Xx

I've just had a miscarriage, and I totally understand how you feel.

I found it has helped to tell people (as we often don't talk about miscarriage).

If you think it would help get signed off work, be kind to your self and cry, cry buckets and let it all out.

Hugs

I'm so so sorry for your loss.

I'm currently recovering from my second miscarriage, first time I miscarried at home at 10 weeks, we'd seen a heartbeat at 6+4 before that.
This time I'd been scanned at 7 weeks but no heartbeat at 9.
Both times I had ERPC (d&c).

It's horrendous. You feel as though all your hopes & dreams have been ripped away from you. There is no getting away from that feeling I'm afraid. As a PP said, you have to allow yourself to heal & to feel sad/scream/cry/rage. Take time off if you need to. Hoping you have lots of supportive people around you.
As hard as it is to stay away from, google is not your friend. Certain sites can lead you down rabbit holes of misery trust me on this.
I also find comfort in being open about it. Bottling it up makes it worse for me but obviously that's not for everyone.

There's so much support from threads like these on here, as well as the ttc after miscarriage threads when you're ready.

Sending you hugs

Also check out the miscarriage association page if you haven't already, there's some really useful, practical information on there as well as the option to talk to someone over the phone about how you're feeling

Thank you everyone. Now I'm home I feel like it's hit me like a ton of bricks. My husband is great, but he will keep things bottled up so I find it hard to talk about it with him. I'm so sorry to everyone else who's gone through this too. Xx

Hi Lisa, just wanted to check in and see how you are. I hope you are doing ok.

Hi, thanks for thinking off me, it's really appreciated. I feel better for writing this post, sometimes it's easier to talk to strangers. Unfortunately my Grandad passed away yesterday and we were very close so I'm all over the place at the moment. Had such a rubbish week it's unreal. Xx