Reassurance after miscarriage needed..

[vitadolce2015]

Hi all. This is my first time posting. I had an mc last night at 6+4. My OH and I are devasted, the pregnancy wasn't planned but we were so excited and happy. As soon as we're ready we will ttc again, soon hopefully. I suppose I'd just like some reassurance from people who have had an mc and gone on to have heathy happy babies. I'm just feeling so empty I need some hope. Im scared that we won't feel so exited next time. It was such a beautiful feeling, I think it's that I'm mourning the most atm. Thanks all.

Firstly, I am so very sorry for your loss. A miscarriage is a heartbreaking thing to deal with. I have a 7 year old DS and a 6 month old DS too. In between the two, I had 6 miscarriages, all at a similar stage to you, and every time felt the complete emptiness that you are describing. Even after 6 and no medical intervention, I went on to have our youngest and then unfortunately (after accidentally becoming pregnant again very soon after) have gone on to have an ectopic. I don't think this will make you feel any better at the moment, but as time goes on, if you can, try to remember that miscarriage happens to an awful lot of women (it's just not often talked about which I don't think helps) and the vast, vast, vast majority of those women go on to have healthy babies and no other problems conceiving. What I'm trying to say to do here is give you hope that you will go on to have a baby (not tell you my tales of sadness), and that even I (with it happening repeatedly - this very rarely happens of course) did do and now have completed our family. Give yourself time to heal and allow yourself to mourn the loss. Once again, I am very sorry that you are going through this.

Thank you so much for taking the time to write to me. It means the world. You've definitely given me hope. Sorry for everything that you've been through as well. Wishing you and your family all the very best.

I feel in limbo at he moment too having miscarriaged about 4 weeks ago at 5wks.
What I do know is that about 9/10 women I spoke with had been through similar and gone on to have other children. My mother in law had an early miscarriage and then had my husband, she said that she wouldn't have had him, if it weren't for her previous miscarriage. Now people see this differently but it gave me a lot of comfort because I love my husband so so much and I can't imagine him not being here.
It's just a different way to look at it I suppose.

It doesn't take away from your experience and it doesn't mean you can't grieve and go through the motions. I am still finding it really hard and it is a day by day thing.
I hate the not knowing and scared about it happening again but I am certain most women feel that way after a miscarriage.
I wish you all the very best, I really hope it works out. Keep talking about it...I don't know about you but it helps to get things out and when people can relate, I think it make you feel less alone