How did your family react

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Hi ladies I don't know if I'm even alllowed to post here but I had a miscarriage at age 17 I didn't no I was pregnant until I was about 6 weeks.I told my now husband and we were totally shocked but really happy
I new i wanted to keep the baby as soon as I got a bfp. But I was 17 and didn't want to tell anyone.3 days later I miscarried. My husband and I were devastated. We told my brother in law what had happened, his reaction hurt just as much as it did losing our angel baby. His words to us were how dare you feel anything for a mistake. I was shocked just because it wasn't a planned baby doesn't mean it was a mistake. My parents were really supportive the hospital informed my mum.as far as my inlaws go there was no support at all. Could you forgive the insensitivity I haven't seen my brother in law in the same light. It's really affecting our relationship

I'm glad that your parents were supportive, but what a terrible response from the others! My family were ok though I don't think they really knew what to say. At least with them there was always the recognition that a baby had been lost. Work was pretty useless.

Your brother-in-law sounds like he has no clue. Hopefully one day he will understand.

Wishing you all the best and you have my deepest sympathy

I am really sorry you had to go through both, as though dealing with the miscarriage isn't enough. My family and friends did not react to the same extent, but I nevertheless encountered a variety of insensitive responses. Many were not open to talking about my experiences and grief, or commented that it was very early, that I should not get attached, that it is for the better because there was something damaged with it, or expressed that they know exactly what I'm going through (yet they never had a miscarriage and have given birth to healthy babies). The truth of the matter is, that unless you have gone through it yourself, it is very hard to tap into what we are experiencing. I have worked hard on recognizing the legitimacy of my grief and pain, and finding ways to support myself when the environment fails to do so. I wish you only blessings from now on!