Can I have a hand hold please?

[mossyroundhill]

Hoping someone can advise me, I feel so lost. Just found out I've lost my baby at 10 weeks, I'm just on the way back from the hospital. I've been told I can't book in for an operation until Friday, I have terrible backache and I feel very nauseous but not sure if that is from shock. I'm also spotting but very lightly. Can anyone please tell me if this sounds like something is happening? And does anyone have any advice on what I need to do? The doctor didn't say and I'm scared. It's also my daughters second birthday tomorrow and I'm worried if it takes a long time I won't be able to be there for her, we want to try and stay positive for her and be strong about it. Any help or support would be really appreciated, thank you.

Anyone?

I'm so sorry for your loss. I can't advise as I've never been in your situation. Just a hand hold for you

From what I've read spotting could be the start of things/your body's way of dealing with it accompanied by the backache but I'm sorry I wouldn't know, only going from what I've read about.

Is there any family you can talk to about it to help out with your daughters birthday?

I'm so sorry for your loss. I had a MMC at 10 weeks in February and I completely and utterly sympathise with everything you've just said. Have you been to your EPU? If you're spotting it sounds like things are happening and if I'm honest I dreaded the idea of doing it naturally but when my spotting started on the Tuesday I had passed the baby naturally by the Friday. I feel like this process helped me grieve and recover better in a sick and twisted way. I think it's important you chose to continue in a way that suits you and that you feel most comfortable with. I'm here if you need anything at all, please pm me xxxx

I've been where you are twice op.my heart goes out to you. You need plenty of rl support around you. Unfortunately I can't tell you when it may start properly (if you don't have a little procedure first). Your symptoms could be shock, they could also be the start of things. It's scary, but if you have a trusted person nearby you will be ok. I recommend painkillers and plenty of sanitary towels. Ideally don't go too far from home. The emotional side was hard for me, I wished I'd had someone to support me but my do was working abroad so it was me and my then 10 year old dd. If you feel concerned physically contact the hospital. Thinking of you

Thank you everyone, I realised I have actually been spotting for a few days but didn't think anything of it. I knew before we got to the hospital something had happened though, I said to DP and as soon as the scan came up I knew the baby had died. My PILs are visiting tomorrow morning with DDs presents on the promise there will be no tears and focus on her happy day. But we are going to stay at home and just be together.

My heart goes out to you. Please take the time for yourself and your family. Send the PILs home after dds party if you don't feel like hosting. It's such an emotional and heartbreaking time. I'm going through the same thing as we speak. Started spotting Thursday night, Friday went to the scan and discovered a blighted ovum. I started in earnest on Saturday night and bleeding continues like a normal period. Sending virtual hugs

It's totally shit...same in April for baby died at 8 weeks d and c 13 weeks..found out at 12 weeks as was bleeding but babay didnt pass on own..sending hugs xx

I'm so sorry for your loss. Sending you love at this difficult time. Sounds like your body is passing the baby naturally. I hope it isn't/wasn't too hurtful for you. I had a chemical pregnancy in March and managed to get pregnant again afterwards but had a MMC in May; i was almost 7 weeks. We started trying in December for our first so it's been a bit of a rocky start. I joined hoping to find some solace. I feel so lonely sometimes. During the chemical pregnancy i had a similar experience with spotting thinking it was normal but as the days went by it started to ger heavier which is when i went to my obgyn. Sending belated birthday wishes to your daughter

I don't know if anyone will read this but just wanted to say thank you for all the support. I had surgery on Friday and the bleeding has already stopped, the hospital were fantastic and I'm feeling more positive. We managed to have a nice birthday for DD too, I think concentrating on that helped. Hopefully now we can look to the future and will be luckier next time. Sending best wishes to everyone and thank you again

Good luck mossy glad DD had a nice birthday..it does get easier xx

Big hugs