Missed miscarriage aged 36

[Jakeybaby90]

Hi all

This is my first time on any form of pregnancy thread. Basically I'm almost 37 and was pregnant with my first baby (found out the end of March).

I went for a private dating scan at 11 weeks and they found a sac but not foetal pole etc.

I then went to doctor and was referred for scan. They found I had a missed miscarriage and the baby had died at just over 8 weeks.

2 weeks later, I had the d&c.

It is now another 2 weeks later and I have so many questions. Wondering if this will happen again and if, with my age, I will even conceive. Do I need to wait for my first period or will ovulation happen first? I really want to TTC but feel totally in the dark and alone. Please help if you can.

I have been in exactly your place. I waited one cycle before trying again, as that seemed to be the advice I mainly got. I conceived quickly and had a live birth at 36. 2 more miscarriages, one birth, miscarriage, birth. Plus lots of very early miscarriage sparticularly in the later stages of that 8 year time span. I wish I'd known earlier about how your eggs use the last three months of their 'life' to mature before being released. I would recommend looking into the things that help them grow best! Last conception I had so many supplements I rattled. Might have saved a lot of issues with the miscarriages tho if I'd started earlier

I've just had a missed miscarriage too. I'd be really interested to know what supplements you took, and where you found useful info from.

Sorry for your loss. To reassure you, I had my first mmc at 39 and then conceived my dd six months later. You have time.

You don't need to wait for a period before trying again, but i found it reassuring to know that I'd got back into a normal cycle so I did wait.

I've had two further mmcs at 42 and 43, but still haven't completely given up hope of another successful pregnancy.

Good luck.

Yeah I think the issue is I'm not sure what to do. Don't want to wait really as I'm almost 37 now. I've been doing ovulation tests all this week and there's a faint one but I know they're unreliable too just after a MMC.

I'm still taking Pregnacare supplements as well. X

I'd just have sex then and keep my fingers crossed. Worst case scenario you don't get pregnant this month, best case scenario you do.

As long as you feel up to it emotionally that is. Getting a +ve test after mc brings its own set of stresses. I had a mmc last Christmas, and conceived again six weeks later, and it was pretty tough going.

Was that a successful pregnancy?

Sadly not, despite several early scans looking ok (my EPU were fantastic as I was very anxious) problems were discovered at our 12 week scan, and the baby died 14 weeks. Looks like T18/Edwards Syndrome, but still waiting for results.

Very bad luck on my part, and nothing to say that we won't have better luck next time, but being 43 obviously doesn't help. I'll be trying again soon though, just taking a couple of months off to regroup and make sure I'm in an ok place emotionally as I think a third loss in such a short period might finish me off.

I know that the urge to crack on is very strong after mc though and, certainly, after my first I knew that the only thing that would heal me was having a successful pregnancy. I was very lucky that it happened for me. I really hope that it happens for you too.

I'm so sorry to hear this. You been through so much but fingers crossed your luck will change. Don't give up.

Thank you so much. Really appreciate you taking the time to message on here. It's reassuring hearing other people's experiences. X

Bubble, Teresa a book called something like the fertility diet (by Sarah dobbyns). I'm not 100% on the name or author but can't check just now. It's got loads of info. Most of it is summarised (with some other stuff too) in the topic called angelbumps' fertility protocol which you can find on the fertility friends website. I researched each supplement as to its relevance to me, and still took most of them - plus Angus castus which I don't think is mentioned there. It was expensive, but I went from regular chemical pregnancies to having a baby at 42 (almost 43).

Oh OP I am so sorry this has happened to you. My first pregnancy also ended in MMC and it really floored me. I was 33 or 34 I think and like you very worried about time ticking by and mature eggs etc. We started trying again straight away after my first period, and got pregnant again straight aWay. It was an uncomplicated pregnancy and my 3.5 yr old is currently asleep next to me as I type. My third pregnancy at 36 resulted in my son who I am right now feeding back to sleep.

I know I am very lucky to have two healthy children from 3 pregnancies but also, MMC can just be luck of the drawer. I know several other women my age who've had one and gone on to have other uncomplicated pregnancies and conceived easily.

When you are in the wake of a MMC it is easy to feel very anxious about your ability to carry to term, is what I am trying to say - but in many cases, happily, that worry is unfounded. May it happen for you.

Thank you and so happy you have 2 beautiful children now. I think for me it was all unknown. First pregnancy etc. Feel regretful now that my husband and I didn't try for children earlier. Naively I thought it would all be fine. My heart is completely broken since the MMC. I never even knew there was such a thing. Thought everything was ok in the pregnancy as there was no bleeding etc and then to see a scan of my dead baby was just the worst thing ever.

I just want to do everything I can to maximise my chances now. Thought I wanted 2 kids but I realise now that 1 healthy one is ok. X

So sorry that this has happened to you. Please be kind to yourself, don't forget that your hormones will still be all over the place.
When it happened to me I was desperate to conceive again. In hindsight all the pressure I put on myself with ovulation tests probably didn't help. In the end I fell pregnant again 7 months after my miscarriage. She's now a 19 month old whirlwind.
Best you can do is allow yourself to cry, laughter, hug, drink, hope really just go with your instincts and do whatever helps.

Thanks so much. I agree. I just need to not put put pressure on myself and just be happy now. X

So sorry for your loss. Everyone is different but if its any help i had 2 mc when i was 37 and 38. I was then diagnosed with antiphospholipid syndrome but had healthy babies at 39 and 41, with a mmc inbetween. Tbh I found the only thing to help with losses was getting pregnant again. I think i waited 1 cycle before ttc with the first 2, but a couple of cycles after the mmc as physically i wanted to recover (natural management). Good luck