Miscarried, now what?

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So I just had, well am having an early miscarriage.... Now what?
It's just it was very early, so hadn't told people, not that I have many friends in this area anyway..... I just don't know what to do.
Am trying to keep a cheery outlook for my dd and step kids but just feel like I am breaking in two inside. The doctor just said that I can try again when I am ready.....

I really don't usually need this kind of comforting ( not a Facebook attention craver or anything) but just feel numb and pretty useless right now....

I seemed to miscarry early on, I say seemed to because I had done 2 tests both positive, was late with my period and started bleeding when I worked out I was 6 weeks. I got sent for an early scan and tbh the nurses were horrible, not much sympathy, looked at me like a little girl (I was 27 at the time but apparently look young!) who stupidly got herself pregnant. I felt absolutely crap, I didn't want to even think about trying again, my mind wasn't in it. My OH didn't seem bothered and that got to me, it was my body that went through it and I had to watch it happen.
It'll take time, its you that needs to go through it again. You're the one who deals with it. Just take your time to get back on track ❤️ xx

I think what you're feeling is completely natural and to be expected so don't be too hard on yourself. I felt exactly the same after my miscarriage and didn't know what to do to make myself better. I didn't realise at the time but my grief just needed to run its course. You'll be ok again and time will make it better. For now though just do what you need to - sit in disbelief, cry, moan, pity - whatever it takes. Also, miscarriage is a physical and emotional loss. Be kind to yourself ❤️. Sending love and healing your way.

GQT22 and Thefirstcuddle thank you for your posts. Sorry you have experienced this too.... I guess you beat yourself up for failing really.... It's silly I know but you want to be strong for the others around you.

Thanks for the kind words too xx

You need to look after number 1, my OH has a daughter from previous relationship, you're right you feel like you've failed, it's horrible. I was angry at my OH, I felt like there was no support, but I guess he didn't see everything "coming out" he couldn't make that early scan either so the disappointment wasn't there in front of his eyes.

Take it easy, don't feel like you've got to jump back on the trying straight away.

It will get easier I promise. Take care of yourself xx

Thank you, I know time will help but right now this bloody hurts. Onwards and upwards X

Now what?
Take time to mourn. Grieve your loss. Be kind to yourself. Allow yourself to feel whatever you're feeling. Whatever you do don't try to suppress your feelings.
I'm so sorry. I also remember the pain and grief as well as the irrational guilt and feelings of failure after my miscarriage.
Sending you hugs.