Miscarriage help?

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targaryen1 · 15/05/2017 22:37

Hi, so a bit of background. I got promoted at work early last month and with this has come a very stressful, non stop work life.
I'm on the pill however missed a few here and there. I had not had time to think anything of it until I realized I hadn't bled on my pill free week.

I took several tests, over a few days all ranging from barely visible positive to, 'its there positive'.

So anyway, although unplanned, I became slightly invested in this, taking a final test yesterday finally confirming I was indeed pregnant, the line was the darkest I've had. Although, I felt completely not pregnant if that makes sense.

Me and my boyfriend have been anxious but slightly giddy about it. However this morning, I woke up in excruciating pain and behold, the toilet was full of blood sorry TMI. I was in shock. I feel awful. Was this a miscarriage? I worked out I possibly was about five weeks and two days.

What do I do? I've heard the doctor cannot really say or do much. I feel so confused and alone. Why was the test seemingly darker yesterday, now this?

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alltalknobaby · 15/05/2017 23:00

I'm sorry you're going through this tar. If you are in very severe pain and having a lot of bleeding, it does sound like a miscarriage. They are much more common than you might think (I have had 2 myself) and can be extremely upsetting, both physically and emotionally. The lines may still be dark on your tests as it can take a little while (varies from person to person) for the pregnancy hormone, HCG, to fade away from your system. Your doctor will not really be able to do anything to help, but I would advise you to go to see them anyway so that this miscarriage goes onto your records. You probably don't want to think about this right now, but if you are unfortunate and have another mc in future, they will generally only start investigating after 3. (Most people who miscarry go on to have perfectly normal healthy babies so try not to worry about that too much just now.)

If I were you I would take a day or two off work, if you can, and take it easy. for your loss.

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targaryen1 · 16/05/2017 01:09

I'm really distraught as I feel like I've lost this the moment I was certain. I told my mum also, which makes me feel even worse. I'm praying the bleeding stops and the cramps, but maybe I'm being to Optimistic in thinking a pregnancy could still go ahead. Thank you for your reply, I will take a test tomorrow and see what happens. I'll book a docs appointment also.

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Picklepickle123 · 16/05/2017 01:11

Don't think I can add much more practical advice to what's already been given, but would definitely recommend to take a day off work and give yourself some time. Lots of hugs

alltalknobaby · 16/05/2017 11:12

I can really empathise with how you feel as this is what happened to me the first time I had a mc. I found out on the Sunday and it was a complete shock, and I had lost it by the Wednesday. It feels like nature tricked you somehow. Just know that you are not alone - I understand. Are you able to talk to your mum, I know you said you'd already told her about the pregnancy? What about your partner, is he being supportive?

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targaryen1 · 16/05/2017 17:45

Thank you all for your replies. I went to work today however the cramps and bleeding were so horrific I finished early. I spoke with my mum and she was very supportive as was my boyfriend. It just wasn't meant to be.
Its awful this happening so early as you feel you have nothing more than a line on a test to mourn over, yet you know deep down this could have been your baby.

I'm so sorry to hear about your loss alltalknobaby

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alltalknobaby · 16/05/2017 17:59

It is so much more than just a line on a test. Take some time to grieve and mourn. Be kind to yourself. You will recover, physically and emotionally. and for you xxx

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