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Here again.

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PlayOnWurtz · 27/03/2017 11:04

Miscarriage number 5 confirmed today when I should be 9 weeks pregnant.

I'm gutted. The more I lose the worse it's getting and the harder it is to handle. I've opted for surgical management because they're offering genetic testing on the embryo so we hopefully will get some answers out of this mess. I'm gutted and don't know what to do with myself right now. Dh has gone out for bacon and crusty rolls - my junk food of choice - he needs to keep himself busy bless him.

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Misssmoo · 03/04/2017 16:29

God this is awful I had my d and c yesterday and it couldn't of been more different thag hospital sounds appalling. ..sorry for your loss play thinking of u xx

DancingUnicorn · 03/04/2017 19:05

So glad they've stepped up and got it done play. Glad the ward advocated for you. Also had my surgery today. Hope you are coping ok and your DH is taking care of you. Will keep you both in my thoughts. 💐

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PlayOnWurtz · 03/04/2017 21:55

[Flowers] Flowers dancing and unicorn hope you're both doing ok tonight

My si joint has always been a problem but tonight it's absolutely knackered where they clearly had me in stirrups. The pain in getting from that is worse than the cramps right now. Feeling sorry for myself and glad the surgeon has given me an instant 2 week sign off. I'll need it for my pelvis!!

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PlayOnWurtz · 03/04/2017 21:56

Dancing and misss even! Oh god I need to go to bed

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DancingUnicorn · 04/04/2017 10:33

How are you feeling today play? Hope you're not hurting too much. Thinking of you. Brew

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PlayOnWurtz · 04/04/2017 15:32

I'm okish didn't sleep at all because my back is knackered and sciatica is screaming. Cramping has started with enthusiasm today though. Psychologically I'm better than I was last week though.

How are you doing?

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Misssmoo · 04/04/2017 16:26

Hope your all okay..I thought I would of felt great today slept nearly all day feeling sons ore but not on the bottom half it's the top and my throat is killing..but I haven't cried today which is q bonus xxx

DancingUnicorn · 04/04/2017 16:53

I'm glad you're finally able to start the psychological recovery process. I'm so sorry you were made to wait so long.

I'm feeling ok. A bit achey, and a few cramps, but nothing worse than AF so far. I'm very grateful that I received good care throughout.

💐

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PlayOnWurtz · 05/04/2017 11:16

Hope you're both feeling better today. I think the hormone crash is happening as im exhausted and migrainey. I forgot about this bit.

It's amazing how many people say "need anything shout" but when you do need something (someone just to take my dog for a walk for 30-45mins) suddenly everyone is busy or poorly or phone isn't working. I feel so flat and unwell and my back is no better but she needs taking out.

Sorry for the whinge.

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DancingUnicorn · 05/04/2017 11:32

I would take her if I could play! But I'm assuming you don't live in south east London! I'm sorry people are not there for you.

I've crashed emotionally today. Feeling hot, and shakey, and like I could stay on the sofa forever. Feeling ok physically though, which I'm grateful for.

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PlayOnWurtz · 05/04/2017 12:16

Bless you nowhere near. I went out and regret it as a pack of off lead dogs set on my girl and now she's a complete stressy mess and worse than before I took her out.

Hope you start to feel better soon Flowers

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DancingUnicorn · 05/04/2017 15:24

Oh no! Your poor dog. Hope she is doing better now.

I'm feeling a bit better this afternoon. Luckily, as I'm hoping to go back to work tomorrow!

Misssmoo · 05/04/2017 15:54

Hi guys ..I'm feeling much better today ..hope your all well..I've decided to stay off work the rest of the week as keep having a lillttle cry and don't want people to see not sure why ...I'm just like that..positive thoughts xx

DancingUnicorn · 05/04/2017 15:57

I feel bad, after feeling ok yesterday, I've felt very teary and bad today. That feeling where I'm literally just glazed over and looking into space for what seems like hours at a time. I'm feeling better this afternoon, but not sure how well I'll cope tomorrow. But I will go and try. My boss will send me home if I'm a wreck!

Misssmoo · 05/04/2017 17:27

Aw dancing sorry to hear that ..my 2nd day was worsen then my 1st ...hope your feeling better soon..chin up lovely xx

DancingUnicorn · 05/04/2017 17:36

I have a feeling I will be very busy, so that's probably a good thing. Plus, short weeks coming up, so less to cope with!

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PlayOnWurtz · 07/04/2017 12:07

Hope you're both feeling better today. I got my blood tests back today. All immune test results fine but b12 is very low. She's not worried as b12 is always fine when I'm not pregnant BUT b12 can drop in pregnancy and cause a miscarriage so going to discuss it with the gynae as any blood now taken is taken when not pregnant. If b12 injections can let me hold onto a pregnancy (supplements clearly didnt) bring it on.

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DancingUnicorn · 07/04/2017 12:49

I really hope this is the answer for you play.

I just gave in and asked work if I could go home. I've just blankly stared at my computer screen all morning, seemed a bit pointless. Really hoping it gets easier next week.

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PlayOnWurtz · 09/04/2017 22:31

Oh bless you hope you're feeling better.

Tmi but I'm still bleeding and cramping. Not anything significant more of a constant red discharge than blood but the cramping is actually quite painful. Is this normal?

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DancingUnicorn · 09/04/2017 22:38

I was told anything longer than 2 weeks to call the EPU. I've been getting some cramps too, which took me by surprise after 3/4 days of nothing. Bleeding has stopped here though. I think if it's painful that paracetamol + ibuprofen doesn't ease then you could call EPU or gp?

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PlayOnWurtz · 12/04/2017 22:41

Ok. I'm really not coping. My husband is being evasive and won't speak to me let alone come near me, I want nothing to do with my family and friends as my sister and best friend are both pregnant (due 2 weeks either side of where I should have been) and so I have absolutely no support in RL anymore. My family have all but forgotten I exist they're so consumed by my sister being pregnant they've forgotten I'm hurting. It's not even been a month since a found out and not even 2 weeks since my procedure.

All I'm feeling right now is anger and hate and hurt and not one person in RL seems to give a shit.

Sorry for the rant.

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DancingUnicorn · 13/04/2017 09:14

Play I'm so sorry you feel this way. I'm sorry your husband isn't being supportive. Do your sister and friend know what you've gone through? I think people find it really hard to know what to say/do and so just try to focus on positive things around them as it's so much easier. But I know how hurtful that can be for you, as you want people to acknowledge your grief.

My EPU said they could refer me to counselling at any point. Maybe that is something you could enquire about.

I'm sorry that there is nothing I can say that will make things easier.

❤

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PlayOnWurtz · 18/04/2017 07:37

Thanks. I think I just had a monumental wobble :-(

I'm back to work today and bricking it.

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DancingUnicorn · 18/04/2017 07:40

Good luck today. Be kind to yourself and take it easy. My first day back was so hard. After the long weekend off, feeling nervous again.

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