Having a 3rd loss

[BelleBeauty82]

Hi everyone. I really need some advice and a bit of perspective.

Last August I had my first miscarriage. I was 10 weeks and needed a d&c. I then had a 6 week loss in January and now I am
having my 3rd loss. I'm not even 5 weeks so not sure if this is a miscarriage or a chemical.

Emotionally I am all over the place. I have a 3 year old DS who was conceived first cycle. I have a bicornate uterus which was discovered when I delivered my DS by c section. I am not sure how this affects my risk of miscarriage.

What do I do now? Do I see my GP. They will only have a record of my first miscarriage. Will they take my word for it that I have had 2 more? Is my current loss classed as a miscarriage? I'm also reluctant to go because I don't want them to tell me to stop trying. I'm still holding onto hope that I just have very very bad luck but the more I think about it the more I think something must be wrong. Can it be wrong if I have a healthy DS?

Sorry, lots of questions. I just needed to get it all down. Thanks for listening.

Hi Belle. I'm sorry for your losses. If I were you I would go back to your GP and ask for a referral for recurrent miscarriage specialist to have som tests done. I don't know how old you, but if time is of an essence I would then go privately as wait times on the NHS can be quite long. I myself have a 2 yr old DD, that I had no problems conceiving, and it was a straightforward pregnancy. We started trying for another baby when she was 1 and I've had 4 miscarriages. I've had th basic tests done on the NHS and they all came back fine. I've since have been seeing a recurrent miscarriage specialist that believes my immune system is the problem (I have been diagnosed with high NK cells which apparently attack the fetus). I'm not dure od immunology is the right way to go for you, but it's something you might want to explore if all of your other testes come back clear. Very best of luck to you and I hope your next pregnancy is a successful one

I'm sorry for your losses. It's very hard when your first has been easily conceived. You expect the same to happen again and it's devastating when things don't go to plan. Get to the Dr's, tell them about the other 2 miscarriages and get referred to a recurrent miscarriage specialist for some further tests. All the very best to you.

I had 2 mc and because I was over 35 was referred. My 1st mc was at around 6 weeks and natural, 2nd was 9 weeks and d&c, your gp should accept your word.

I hope you get some answers

Hi Belle, sorry for your loss. I'm in a similar situation - a nearly 3 year old DS and 3 miscarriages since Aug- one at 5 weeks then an MMC at 12 weeks, and now a third at 5 weeks. I did go to EPU each time, and have now been referred. Each time I've been told just to try again once we're ready, even now I'm waiting for an RMC appointment so I wouldn't worry about being told to stop. Just go to your GP and ask.

Thanks for all your messages. I am going to call the GP and ask for a referral. I might be waiting weeks for that so no harm in getting on the system.

Loads of people have one child and have mcs after. You assume it'll be fine as you've had one already. Like pj I had treatment for killer cells. I remember reading prof regan's book and structural problems with the uterus can certainly cause problems. I have never given a gp proof of a mc. Go now/soon, say what's happening now and that it's the third time. If there's a good recurrent miscarriage clinic close to you wait for the referral, if not go to one privately (mine went on a credit card). I had 4 mcs before dc2, I wouldn't wish it on anyone.