Terrified waiting to Miscarry

[Rac23]

Hi
I started spotting week 9 on xmas day. Got a scan boxing day and no hb. Poor baby just lying there still. Today I have stronger cramps starting and red blood. But I just dont feel very well I feel strange. Biggest thing is I am terrified of whats going to come out. They cant give me an appointment till Sat to discuss whats next. So Im just at home just about scared to move its really horrible.

That sounds like it might be it and the worst is over. Take care of yourself.

It sounds like what happened when I miscarried at 9 weeks. Hopefully that's the worst of the bleeding over and done with. Take it easy, your bleeding will become heavy again of you do too much.

I'm so sorry, it's a brutal thing to go through.

Oh that's awful that you've been left for so long. I hope you start to feel more comfortable soon

Ladies thank you for helping through the days of fear and misery. Had scan and nothing there at all it must have literally blasted out earlier this morning. I was hysterical by the time I got to hospital but luckily I dont have to go through any procedures to get it out. The poor nurses were lovely gave me a little memory box with teddy and bits in. What an absolute ordeal. Best of luck everyone xxxxxxxx

I'm glad it's over for you now.

Oh Rac23 I'm thinking of you.. I hope since this morning things have gotten better. I was in a mess too.. still am but doing so much better.. you'll get through this. I also agree with the NHS giving very skewed information on things.. I feel there isn't really any real information or pre-advice given by midwives about the possibilities of this and how to handle things.. I feel they play down natural mc so that women opt for it more over a possible time consuming cost of an ERPC.. I don't know.. I might be totally wrong.. But before anything we've got to put ourselves first.. Hugs xx

I'm so glad the worst is over physically but of course terribly sorry you have been through it. Even on my follow up notes they had written period like cramps when it absolutely wasn't. Why do they want to deny it when surely some knowledge would help and reassure?

Anyway I am thinking of you and hope you recover physically and emotionally. Give yourself some time. It's hard.

I was asked if I felt like I was heavy period. I was like no I feel like Ive given birth to something small but non the less the process felt the same. I actually told them they should tell people the truth that its not fair to say its like a heavy period I said its like giving birth but smaller version and then it dawned on me that if they did tell people that after they had just found out it would freak them out. I think its to save minor surgery costs. But actually the 6 days of being in labour to something the size of a lemon has given me time to get used to whats happened. Coming round from the small op and thinking its all over in an hour would have bedn bad too. I hate waking up and having to remember whats happened its that sinking feeling again and again x

Hi Rac23,
Glad you've come out the other side. Hope you can start the healing process now. I actually did find my mc was like a heavy period, but then I also found ny labour pains were like period pains, so I guess it just varies from woman to woman. I imagine they say period pains because that is what most women would be familiar with.
that you can try again soon of that's what you are interested in doing.