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Am I the only one? Awaiting miscarriage :(

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user1481800358 · 18/12/2016 18:20

Please can someone help or advice me? I feel so confused and devastated.

I began having a brown discharge in my 5th week of pregnancy - off/on (mainly when I went to the loo and wiped). I also had lower back ache. I went for an early scan (5w 3d) and the nurse said I had an irregular shaped gestational sac that should be a perfect circle but was more oval. She said it was extremely likely I would miscarry and to attend a scan on 23rd. Has anyone had this before? I cant see this on any thread and wanted to know if anyone had/is going through this?

I am still spotting (very minimal) and backache isnt as bad but I just feel I know, deep down.

Please dont read and run. Thank you so much and I wish you all lots of love and best wishes xxxx

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UnbornMortificado · 21/12/2016 17:54

Good luck with your scan as well why Flowers

A site with that info could probably help a lot of women. I'm members off a few like SANDS which is more for later stage miscarriages/stillbirths but there doesn't seem to me much support about for earlier losses which is sad.

Hulaballoo · 21/12/2016 18:29

Thinking of you both unborn and why. I hope it goes ok tomorrow, will be thinking of you both. Xxx

whyistherumgone · 21/12/2016 20:02

Thanks Hula mine is on Friday so still got a day to wait :( so I'm trying to keep myself busy. Stupid part of me is still hoping my dates are out but I know I'm just being an idiot.

whyistherumgone · 21/12/2016 20:02

sorry if that sounds offensive to anyone else not
meant that way I just know my personal situation is unlikely to have a positive outcome.

Hulaballoo · 21/12/2016 22:24

I know what you mean why , mine was the same. I was too on top of my dates to know 3 weeks behind was almost impossible.... Keep busy, xxx

whyhastherumgone · 22/12/2016 11:53

Thanks Hula I had completely accepted it until I realised my cycles were actually irregular (sounds stupid but hadnt realised) but even taking that into consideration I know there won't be a good outcome.

I'm wrapping all the presents
today to stay busy and maybe going to the cinema later. Hope everyone else is doing OK.

emsler · 22/12/2016 11:59

I was exactly the same whyhastherumgone - they kept telling me my dates were probably off but I knew they couldn't be. Sending you all love.

whyhastherumgone · 22/12/2016 12:07

Thank you :) I think I wouldn't have been able to deal with this as well as I have so far if it hadn't been for this forum so thanks to everyone who has offered kind words/thought/support. x

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user1481800358 · 22/12/2016 14:09

Good luck in the morning Rum...counting down the hours now. I think I have had it confirmed today as a bit achy in my sides and brown spotting is turning pink Sad . Sounds strange but emotionally I am now starting to cope more but it is the physical part that is making me distressed and uncomfortable, does anyone agree? I just feel run down and havent even changed out of my pjs today Sad ...terrible I know xx

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Hulaballoo · 22/12/2016 16:52

Yeah, I'm feeling like I can't be bothered with anything... I'm really snappy too and then kick myself down for being so... Urgh emotions all over, I swear DH thinks it's over so surely I'm back to normal hormone wise.... It's not... Grrr

Hulaballoo · 22/12/2016 16:53

Sorry forgot to add, best of luck with your scans tomorrow!! Xx

whyhastherumgone · 22/12/2016 17:02

Ah Hula I'm exactly the same. Cheerful and upbeat one minute then sharp and bursting into tears the next. I think it takes quite a while for hormones to settle and then you're still going to feel emotional anyway. Take care xxx

BeamReach · 22/12/2016 22:31

User, I felt really awful physically once I had started bleeding, exhausted. Much better now all over. I hope you get some answers and a clear plan tommorrow xx

BeamReach · 22/12/2016 22:31

I was also a horrible person to. Be around. My mum is a saint xx

ScarletSienna · 22/12/2016 22:35

I found the checking for blood and questioning each ache emotionally draining aside from the sadness and physical pain. It is so tough; sending you all Flowers

whyhastherumgone · 23/12/2016 07:38

just wanted to wish you good luck for today user

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user1481800358 · 23/12/2016 08:07

Thank you Rum, petrified but at the same time just want confirmation. I wish you luck too and please let me know how it goes? Will be thinking of you x Flowers

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whyhastherumgone · 23/12/2016 08:08

I will pop back on after to let you know, let me know how you get on too. X

UnbornMortificadoAtChristmas · 24/12/2016 10:37

Hoping you've had some some good news OP

whyhastherumgone · 24/12/2016 12:06

I hope you had good news too OP. unfortunately mine was an expected but I'm feeling better for not being in limbo. Whatever the outcome, I hope you're doing ok today.

UnbornMortificadoAtChristmas · 26/12/2016 12:42

Oh why I am sorry Flowers

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user1481800358 · 28/12/2016 10:01

Hi everyone,

Sorry my response is delayed. I hope you had lovely christmases and managed to keep yourselves distracted. How are you all? I am so so sorry Why, are you coping ok? Flowers

I went to my scan and to our surprise..there was a little bean with a heartbeat and everything looked fine. We were shocked but they said they could not see anything wrong and said it was old blood. They took swabs and I am awaiting for these back. Unfortunately, I awoke to a pink bleed this morning and the doctor is referring me again for a scan and has signed me off work. I am concerned and he said there is an issue if it has changed colour Sad. I am just waiting to find out when it will be. I am feeling like rubbish and deep down, I cant see there being a positive outcome as something is clearly wrong x x

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UnbornMortificadoAtChristmas · 28/12/2016 11:46

Oh I'm pleased you posted.

User I bled with DD1 till about 5 months. She was completely fine and came 6 days overdue. She's now 11. She's a pain in the arse a lot sometimes but very healthy.

Nothing wrong with a bit of hope in these situations and I will be keeping everything crossed (again) for you.

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user1481800358 · 28/12/2016 12:15

Thank you so much for giving me the glimmer of hope. Did they ever give a reason as to why that happened? I think it is the unknown which is the hardest. I cant get a scan until a week today so I plan on munching through chocolates with my duvet on the sofa in the meantime Blush x x

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bangingmyheadoffabrickwall · 28/12/2016 21:42

Just rest and enjoy your chocolate. I have heard of LOADS of women who have bled heavily and all has been fine.
I had brown and pink during my first trimester and I was in turkey (6 weeks pregnant) when it started. I convinced myself I was miscarrying. That little 'bundle of trouble' is now fast asleep in her cot and will turn two in a couple of months.
Fingers crossed.