Struggling to carry on

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Hi,

After having medical management of a MMC two weeks ago I am really struggling to get on with things. I don't want to get out of bed some days, and am really struggling to eat or sleep. With the stress of waiting a week for the MMC to be confirmed, over the last 3 weeks I have lost 1st!

In the last two weeks 4 people I know have announced their pregnancies. One is due a few weeks before I was, two the day before I was, and one the day after. Seeing their scan pictures and hearing them talk about how they heard the heart beat... it's killing me.

I want to try and get back to normal (or something very close at least) but every tiny thing just feels like a huge hurdle at the moment..

Any advise!?

So sorry for your loss. I've had 2 miscarriages recently so can absolutely relate to the feeling of not wanting to get out of bed - in fact I think I started a very similar thread a few months back and had some helpful advice.

It's still very early for you and its normal to be feeling totally crap, for me it was something I just had to get through day by day and it eventually started to feel a bit better. As for the pregnancy announcements, they really sting. I congratulate the person and then hide their post. I hide anything that gives me that punch in the stomach feeling. Do you have anyone you can talk to? Maybe worth a visit to the GP to discuss how much it's effecting you and see what help they can offer?

It's a shit time, do what you have to, whether that be laying in bed all day or carrying on as normal, there's no right way to deal with it.

I'm so sorry for your loss. From experience the first few weeks are difficult. Did they not offer you some counselling at your local hospital where were being treated. I was already going to therapy before my MMC and can honestly say the sessions helped me grieve and work through everything. It is absolutely normal to feel sad and a little jealous when you see people with growing baby bumps and over time you will be able to deal with it a bit more

Take care of yourself.