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Miscarriage/pregnancy loss

Find support and share your experiences on our Miscarriage forum. See also legal rights and support after baby loss.

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Miscarriage at home, how long is this likely to take?

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Propermardy · 04/12/2016 10:08

I'm sorry for everyone who has been or is going through this nightmare.

I am going through the miscarriage of my rainbow baby after losing my son in later pregnancy earlier this year. The loss of my son was very much a labour and delivery so I have no idea about early miscarriage.

I started spotted brown blood last Saturday at 6 weeks pregnant and began bleeding red blood on Wednesday, I had about 5 mins of heavy blood and a big clot on the loo this morning but it has slowed again. The scan on Thursday showed an empty sac, way behind on dates.

I have read the brilliant tips thread so feel more prepared than I felt leaving hospital (nurse sad, ohh, you're unlucky. Take a cocodamol for the pain, and that was it. Helpful) but just wonders if anyone who had miscarried naturally could give me an idea how long it took from start of bleeding to the main loss then how long you bled after? Did anyone not have the gushing and just experience a heavy period? I don't mind a non medical loss but I do mind it taking ages, especially with Christmas looming, I have my living kids nativities, Christingle etc and at the moment am scared to go out far or for long in case of an accident. This is crap.

Sorry for the long post, I'm just frustrated and angry.

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SleightOfMind · 04/12/2016 12:32

I'm sure someone more knowledgeable will be along but didn't want to leave your post unanswered.
So sorry this is happening, it's shit isn't it. Especially rotten luck after your earlier loss.
For me the whole thing took about 4 days before settling down into a normal period.
The 4 days consisted of some unpredictable heavy gushes, one of which, on day3, was very clotty and I presume the main bit.
After day 4 it became just like a heavier than usual period.
I was nearly 10 weeks.

SleightOfMind · 04/12/2016 12:34

Oh, it took about a fortnight from start to finish but was just spotting by the end.

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Propermardy · 04/12/2016 15:21

hi, thank you so much for taking the time to reply, I really appreciate it and I'm sorry you've been through this too. You're right, it really is shit.

I thought I was starting the worst of it today but it has slowed right down. I'm just getting frustrated and want it over with, and not keep wondering when it's going to happen.

Thanks again.

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SammyL100 · 07/12/2016 08:46

So sorry for your loss.

From start to finish for me took about 9 days and could be divided in 3 day intervals. Heavy bleeding for 3 days approx and then medium next 3 days and 3 days relatively light flow.

Mamanmaman33 · 07/12/2016 08:57

So sorry to hear about your loss. It is the worst feeling in the world. I miscarried at 12 weeks. After the initial 2 days of spotting, I had around 24 hours of very heavy bleeding with very big clots. The bleeding then calmed down to a heavy period but on around day 5 when I thought I was "safe" I passed the biggest clot when I was out in public. It was very distressing as I bled through my trousers and had to sprint for a toilet whilst hoping not to leak or pass any more clots en route. I bled in total for 2 weeks. I hope you don't suffer for as long as I did and pray you don't get "caught out" in public as I did. Thinking of you x

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Propermardy · 07/12/2016 11:22

Thank you for responding, I am so sorry for your losses, not one bit of this is easy, is it? Since the bad days on Sunday and Monday, it has slowed right down, the blood loss seems thicker, stringy and darker...it may be that as it was so early a loss ive been through the worst of it, but I've heard so many ladies experiencing unexpected gushes a few days, sorry that happened to you too Maman. It is the unpredictability I hate the most. The EPU were next to useless, no information given, no leaflet and even when I was asking questions they seemed uninterested. They just said to call back if I don't get a negative pregnancy test by 19th. Brilliant....

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Mamanmaman33 · 07/12/2016 11:59

I didn't have any idea what a miscarriage was like and what to expect. I had no idea there would be so much bleeding and so many hideous clots. If miscarrying wasn't bad enough, to have that extra ugly reminder each time you go to the toilet makes it even worse. I'm actually going through my second miscarriage right now, this time I was 7 weeks. The clots aren't so bad this time, but as soon as I started bleeding I knew what was happening and what to expect. Wishing us both positive thinking for a happy outcome next time....

charlotteP1994 · 13/12/2016 07:57

My first miscarriage passed naturally with a lot of heavy bleeding and clots. The pain was horrendous as well. With my second pregnancy I had a scan to find out my baby's heart had stopped beating at 8 weeks and 5 days :( I had no bleeding or signs of my mc. I was going to have a natural miscarriage as I was scared of having the op but I was having nightmares about the amount of blood and the chances of seeing our baby. I opted for the D and C (which I had yesterday) and this wasn't as bad as I thought and only have little bleeding and little pain

Lizziedoll · 13/12/2016 19:24

I am so sorry for your losses I had a natural mc in July at 5-6 weeks and it was no more painful or heavier than a period and I bled for less than a week. Emotionally it was more difficult but 5 months on I feel loads better and have made peace with it. Be gentle with yourself and take care.

charlotteP1994 · 13/12/2016 21:58

Thank you and sorry for your loss too. I have a little pain still but the bleeding has more or less stopped emotional side of things at the moment are not too great, one minute I'm fine and the next I'm all over the place! I know things will get better as I have come to terms with my first mc but at the moment I think a good cry will do me good :)

Lizziedoll · 13/12/2016 22:26

Crying is good and very healthy! It's normal to feel "all over the place" emotionally, feeling ok one minute and in tears and total despair the next, remember your hormones are out of whack and it'll take a good few weeks for them to be back to normal. Be gentle with yourself and take it easy. All the best

BertieBeats · 13/12/2016 22:36

I had a early miscarriage start of the year (I was about 6 weeks like you) and had 2 days heavy with cramping, and then it went to a light period for a week.

Sorry for your loss

eurochick · 13/12/2016 22:40

I miscarried at about 8 weeks. I had 2-3 days of lightish bleeding and pain, some heavy bleeding, then passed the sack. The pain stopped and it was like the second half of a period after that. I bled for two weeks in total. I took codeine on the worst day but otherwise didn't feel too bad, just a bit weak and wobbly.

charlotteP1994 · 14/12/2016 18:28

It's harder to try and get over the emotional pain when you have physical pain too. It's also hard having the pains and no baby :( it's crazy how common mc's are!

Lizziedoll · 14/12/2016 18:46

Yes, incredibly common but no one talks about them, I didn't realise how common, in fact, until I miscarried and pretty much everyone I told said "it happened to me too"!

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Propermardy · 15/12/2016 09:08

Thank you everybody for you responses, it's heartbreaking to know how many go through this and usually alone, it's still a bit of a taboo subject, but I have no idea why.

I have now finished bleeding, I had 2 days of heavy blood and clots then it was like a period for a couple of days. I did a pregnancy test this week which was still positive, such a horrible feeling to want to see a negative, when a positive test usually brings so much happiness. I've got to call the hospital on 19th if it's still positive. I have found the emotional side hard, I got lots of support when I had a later loss, but with an early loss you don't tell many people or they expect you to be over it quickly, which is hard when your hormones are raging.

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Lizziedoll · 15/12/2016 10:14

Glad you're through the worst of it. Rest up, you will feel better soon. Sending hugs

charlotteP1994 · 15/12/2016 14:29

I think it would make people feel better if they could openly talk about their mc, it feels wrong to hide your baby's existence but because it is such a taboo subject it makes us feel like we can't :(

Lizziedoll · 15/12/2016 16:39

Charlotte agreed

charlotteP1994 · 15/12/2016 17:16

It took a little while for me to feel 'normal' after my first mc, currently going through my second and feel like 'normal' will take longer to happen this time as there are more worries in my head about future pregnancy

SharkBastard · 15/12/2016 17:40

I had 2 miscarriages at 6 weeks. First one I passed within 24 hours of bleeding, I had mild pain but 'felt' it pop out into the loo. I then returned to work the next day with just light bleeding.

My second took longer, I never felt I 'passed' it and just bled for 5 days. This time my GP signed me off as I was worried of retaining any products thus risking infection. I took painkillers, wine, and kept an eye on my tempreature. After 7 days I was fine and went back to work.

I'm a little bit too open about mine but I'm a huge advocate of miscarriage not being taboo, when I talk openly I'm always astounded by how many women miscarriages affect. Let's be loud and open, there is comfort in knowing others have been there with you.

Best of luck for the future, I'm 21 weeks pregnant with my second child (8 year difference), the first few weeks were hard as hell but it's getting better

charlotteP1994 · 15/12/2016 17:53

Congratulations and good luck!
I'm only 22 and have plenty of time to try again, third time lucky hopefully :)

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