Good at getting pregnant but not staying pregnant

[kitkat321]

Anyone else in this boat?

I've been pregnant 4 times in the last 3 years but only have 1 child.

My first pregnany in 2013 ended at 5+4 - despite being an early miscarriage it was quite painful and I did end up in hospital on the gas and air.

I put it down to bad luck - at that point I hadn't realised that 1 in 5 pregnanies ended in mc.

I stupidly decided to try and get pregnant again right away - I'd read online that as your hormone levels were still elevated it would increase the likelihood of a successful pregnancy - I got pregnant again right away on first attempt (I always have) but had another mc at 5+4.

Dr said it was because it was too soon for my body to cope. They did blood tests and everything came back fine. I gave it a break for a few months and fell pregnant on first attempt in early 2014 and had a perfectly normal pregnany and gave birth to my amazing dd who is now 2.

Decided it was time to have another - again fell pregnant on first attempt and got my bfp on Saturday. This morning, at 5+1 I started bleeding and then cramping and I still am - having gone through this twice before I know exactly what is happening. This time round it's harder to take as it now feels like it's not just bad luck or timing but that there is a reason why this keeps happening.

I'm not really sure what to do now. Do I wait a few months and try again and hope for the best? Is there any point on going to see a doctor at this point given I've already had tests run in the past.

Although it's only an early mc, each time it takes it toll physically and mentally and I'm loath to compromise on the time I spend with my dd by getting caught up in this horrible cycle. I wonder if it's better just to accept that I won't have another - at least not without a great deal of difficulty.

My first pregnancy ended at 6 months and my baby died 2 hours after he was born,

I fell pregnant 8 weeks later and miscarried at 5 weeks. Fell pregnant 10 weeks after that and miscarried at 6 weeks.

5 months later I was waiting for blood tests and what not to see if I had any issues and I found out I was pregnant ( now have a healthy 2 year old ) at her 6 week scan they showed me I had PCOS on one ovary, absolutely riddled it was.

Said that's why I'd had problems keeping the pregnancys as apparently miscarriges are more common with PCOS

fell pregnant again when my daughter was 13 months old and miscarried at 5 weeks. But then I fell pregnant on my next cycle and I now have a 7 day old son in my arms. He was a massive lovely surprise just wasn't trying for him after the MC

So

Son but he died
Miscarrige
Miscarrige
Daughter
Miscarrige
Son

I hope you get your baby soon, good luck x

dontknow what a strong person you must be. I'm so sorry to hear about your losses, particularly your son.
I know a loss is a loss but I would never compare my 5/6 week losses to a 6 month one.
It seems sometimes it just a case of keep going until one sticks. It's so hard mentally though. My last loss was early last year and if I'm honest I haven't been willing to go through the rollercoaster again until very recently.
If this one doesn't work out I'm not sure I'll do it again. I'm incredibly lucky to have the ones I have.

I have had 13 pregnancies.
6!miscarriages, baby, misc, baby, misc, baby, misc baby!
They found out my Dh had something called a balanced translocation which affected chromosomes in his sperm. If we got a dodgey sperm then pregnancy unlikely to get past 12 weeks.
Of course some of those 9 miscarriages may just not have been viable pregnancies.
I had 3 pregnancies after I turned 40 which surprised our consultant!
Good luck OP

Milklollies your posts show a complete lack of empathy towards those who have lost babies/struggling to conceive. It's one thing to think those opinions but quite another to voice them.

Sorry for what you have all been through

Sorry your going through this I have had many many mcs and 2 ectopics. It has taken its toll physically and emotionally. I'm glad I kept going as now have 4 dcs but looking back it was tough.

I'm sure I also ready somewhere that some women can only carry foetuses of certain sex to full term - I think the specific examples were women who couldn't carry male foetuses as their body rejected them but I may ahve totally made that up!

I was convinced that this was the case with me as I had 3 dds but now I have a son.

LargeMelons Thank you, it's been bitter sweet having my 2nd son because he's the spitting image of his brother and it's upsetting imagining what could of been.

I agree, I believe it's a case of keep going until one sticks, or in my case, give up trying and then getting a lovely surprise

GettingItWrong I have heard that too about some woman not being able to carry boys full term. And I believe it too, my first boy was born at 24 weeks and my 2nd was born at 37 weeks but my body stopped helping him grow months ago, he was 4lb 14oz when he was born and not much taller than his brother. My daughters pregnancy went by with no issues yet both my sons had problems albeit one worse than the other x

Sorry for your loss kitkat. I had one normal pregnancy, lovely 3 yo ds and have had 2 miscarriages at 10 and 5 weeks in the last 6 months. I had some tests done and have a slightly under active thyroid which can cause miscarriage so I'm not being treated for that and hoping to God this current pregnancy works out. Not waiting shouldn't cause a miscarriage, I think that has been completely disproved so don't blame yourself. Maybe go to the GP and tell them about this miscarriage and see if they will run some tests? Mine were happy to do so after 2 miscarriages and tested for all sorts of common causes. Good luck.

So now I'm spotting pink blood at 5+5
Ffs. Will Be mc 4 if it goes the way I'm expecting.

So sorry to hear that largemelons. You'll know the drill as well as I do - go get your bloods taken - scan will show nothing. Hopefully it's just spotting though - take care of yourself xx

I didn't even bother going to the doctor this time - just did a few pg tests at home over the space of a few days - all negative.

Back on the pill now - don't think I can go through it again any time soon. Maybe next year!

Have you been checked for adenomyosis?

Hi kitkat.
No more bleeding but just did a test at 6+1 and it's fainter than a couple of days ago so I've got my answer. Don't feel as sick today either.
I'm ok.
it's weird as I feel like I've been waiting for it to happen so now it has it's a relief because I know?
Not sure if we'LL try again.
I'm always pragmatic about these things, I have 5 beautiful DC and I'm very blessed.
Looking forward to lots of mulled wine over Christmas!

Sorry for what you have all been through! But really admire how brave and strong you are!

I had my first miscarriage in September and just gone through another chemical pregnancy and almost devasted. Why not a sticky bean for me? And happened to have an in-law who is very into sharing baby pics that sort of thing so made it even more difficult to cope :-(

Sorry about the moaning...but I do feel the frustration of not good at staying pregnant!

I'm currently going through my second mc, I have bicornuate uterus which is a possible reason behind my mc's

Largemelons - so sorry that it wasn't a sticky one :( Hopefully being able to indulge in some alcohol during the festive season helps to soften the below.

Like you, I was expecting it and was in a strange way relieved as well as disappointed. I think we will just stick to one. And i'm happy with that - my dd is a wee cracker so she'll keep me going.

MrsHarper - sorry to hear that. Fingers crossed for a sticky bean next time - it was certainly 3rd time lucky for me.

CharlotteP - just googled bicornuate uterus. It looks like it's not a major barrier to getting pregnant so fingers crossed you have a successful pregnancy in the near future x

More misses than hits on my record too. Every time I decide to get pregnant I am pregnant within six weeks, that's never an issue. The shortest time between miscarriage and conceiving again has been three weeks.

First pregnancy m/c at approx 13 weeks, second pregnancy m/c at 16 weeks (girl) third pregnancy carried to term, fourth pregnancy m/c at 5 weeks, fifth pregnancy m/c at 19 weeks (boy) sixth pregnancy carried to term, seventh was an early m/c at only about 7-8 weeks. Wow that's a longer list than I though, I've never really written it out!

Hardest was the first and fifth. Seventh was easiest and probably a blessing. No reason has ever been found at my babies post mortems. Chance has been the only suggestion offered.

I am sorry you are going through this, and I still have m fingers crossed for you. It ain't over till it's over right?

Hope you have a merry Christmas whatever happens.

Just wanted to add a voice. I'm currently on my second miscarriage. It was missed and I've taken the medical management route and having a pretty sucky time with it all.

History is:
DD1
miscarriage at 5/6w
DD2
mmc (should have been 12/13 weeks but sac measured 6+5, no baby seen)

Like many of you I've had similar thoughts that maybe I can't carry boys. Haven't said this out loud to anyone other than my partner as I thought it would sound silly. It's not even that Iong for a boy, I would just like another child but I'm quite scared to try again this time. Currently we're on a 50% success rate and like many of you we have no problem getting pregnant. I know if I try again we will have that positive within a few months but I'm just not sure I can go through this again, it's really draining.

I've said to my partner if we try again we need to put some money to one side for a private scan at 8 weeks because I can't go to 12 again without knowing. I realise I could lose one at any time but given one was so early and the other no baby was seen I think I'd feel better if I saw some signs of life.

So no real help OP but I'm sorry, it's not easy. :(