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Miscarriage/pregnancy loss

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First pregnancy - miscarried at 6 1/2 weeks

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Fuzyfelt23 · 20/10/2016 10:30

I'm currently going through a miscarriage, my first pregnancy after ttc for 5 months. We were so excited and I feel like my hearts been ripped out. I feel like a mother with no baby. I was ready but unfortunately my baby wasn't. I feel so hopeless

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IPokeBadgers · 20/10/2016 10:33

That's very sad for you. I'm sorry you are going through this. It feels hopeless now and that's ok. You will get through this xx

wowwee123 · 20/10/2016 10:35

so sorry you are having to go through this fuzzy. it's truly heartbreaking. let yourself feel however you want.

there's nothing i can say to make you feel better but it does start to hurt less over time.

so sorry Flowers

Thingymaboob · 21/10/2016 00:24

Hi fuzy, I'm in exactly the same boat as you. Currently miscarrying at 6 weeks after ttc 5 months. Feel desperately upset and totally drained. Had a scan at epau which showed empty uterus. Ignored brown discharge for 4 days as old blood and it was really light. Then it was really watery like pond water urgh. Knew then. Now heavily bleeding. My husband and I are going to try again in January. My boobs still feel swollen and sore. My HCG is still high enough to produce a positive pregnancy test. So unfair. I've been in bed since Sunday. Only changed my clothes once to meet my closest friends. Have had one bath.
Has your partner been supportive? Have you been to work? There's nothing I can say to make pain go away!

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Fuzyfelt23 · 21/10/2016 08:21

My partner has been absolutely amazing. I've been off work all week and plan to go back monday. I'm sorry you're going through it too, its horrendous x

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Thingymaboob · 21/10/2016 08:48

Glad to hear your partner has been amazing. My bleeding has really ramped up last 2 days. I've been recommended floradix which has iron and B vitamins. Have you thought about when you're going ttc again?

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Fuzyfelt23 · 21/10/2016 13:36

I'll wait for my next cycle and then start again I think

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Thingymaboob · 21/10/2016 14:34

Same here. Not feeling sexy at all at the moment. Let's stay in touch fuzy!
Today has been slightly better. Made food for myself (scrambled eggs with smoked salmon). I also drank a strong coffee. I've mainly been eating take aways and muffins!
How are you feeling today?

rmx3 · 21/10/2016 20:42

I'm in the same boat. Just finishing up a miscarriage at 6.5 weeks. Doc saw a gestational sac but I never developed further. Unfortunately you will get a positive pregnancy test even after you pass tissue and the sac. Yesterday I had almost passed everything and my HCG was down to 134 and the pregnancy was gone but I would still get a positive if I took one. It's terrible. I think the worst is over. I've cried and cried and we wanted this baby. Best wishes to you both.

Thingymaboob · 22/10/2016 00:53

Hi rm!
I'm crying less frequently, however I haven't gone back to work yet. That's going to be tough on Monday! My HCG is down to 30 now. Bled quite a lot these last 2 days. Feeling very drained but have started taking floradix. Hoping that will perk me up a bit. Still feeling nauseous!

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Fuzyfelt23 · 22/10/2016 08:00

Hi thingy and rm, this is my 7th day of bleeding, its slowed down a lot but still bleeding, feeling really run down, had a really bad tummy yesterday and felt really sick. I just want it all to be over. Its the most awful thing that's ever happened. I just want to be pregnant again. Funny story... the day I miscarried on the morning I was telling my bf that our little dot was the size of a small ladybird... later in the day I started bleeding and losing clots, i sat on the bed and cried and cried and what landed on our bedroom window.. a ladybird.. and it came back the next day whilst I was crying in bed... i believe it was my little dot telling me its going to be ok xx

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Thingymaboob · 22/10/2016 11:15

Isn't life funny like that. It's a nice way to think about it.

My nephew was born in my old bedroom (not planned, progressed quickly whilst at my mums - two weeks early) on the day I miscarried.
I don't really know what to make of that! Rung my mum to tell her I was miscarrying. At same time, my sister in law in labour. They didn't tell me until afterwards.

rmx3 · 22/10/2016 14:33

It is terrible! I just want it to be over too. I actually spoke too soon and started hurting very badly last

rmx3 · 22/10/2016 14:36

night and woke up throughout covered in sweat. Today I feel like I'm just getting over some horrible sickness with how rundown I feel.

Life is very funny like that. My sister delivered her baby last week and it felt difficult. Since I've miscarried it's sad for me to see the pics she sends out. I love her so much and so happy she has a perfect beautiful baby but it hurts my heart that we didn't get ours. Hoping thingy and fuzzy that your mc ends very soon and can move on with our life's again.

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Fuzyfelt23 · 22/10/2016 15:00

My name is Lisa by the way 😊 I'm 27 tomorrow xx

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Thingymaboob · 22/10/2016 17:23

I hope you get to do something enjoyable on your birthday.
My name is Laura and I'm 31 x

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Fuzyfelt23 · 22/10/2016 18:10

Thank you, my boyfriend has planned lots of nice things. I'm trying to enjoy, just getting so upset

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Fuzyfelt23 · 22/10/2016 18:45

How long will you wait to try again? X

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rmx3 · 22/10/2016 23:39

Hope you get to enjoy your birthday and that you have a rainbow baby coming soon.

Thingymaboob · 22/10/2016 23:51

I think I just want to be pregnant straight away. Like right now. My husband wants to wait until new year. He really wants a baby too but we we had planned on pausing ttc as we were having a lot of arguments but then I caught! Also I want to lose a stone before I try again as my BMI is 31. Not that bad I know but it will make me feel better and reduce some of the risks. Had dinner with a friend tonight who is an obstetrician- she was very reassuring about everything. Back to slimming world a week Thursday. I have eaten a lot of take aways and cake this week.

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Fuzyfelt23 · 23/10/2016 08:24

I'm sorry you were arguing, I hope it's stuff you can work on. I know this sounds crap but try to concentrate on your hubby too, i know my other half is hurting too so i'm trying to give him the attention he needs. I'm conscious this baby business can be all consuming. Be kind to yourself. You can lose weight when you're ready if that's what you want to do xx

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GlitzyGlam1 · 31/10/2016 17:23

Hi everyone. This is my first time to post here & I am just asking for your advice. I was late in life getting married and was ecstatic when I found out I was pregnant for the first time @42. Unfortunately my husband didn't feel the same way and insisted I had an abortion. I was utterly devasted by his reaction but swore I wouldn't go through with it. He has 2 kids from his first marriage and he had to run it by his 15 yr old daughter. As soon as she approved he changed his mind. Throughout the 12 wks I was pregnant I was very sick and my husband didn't come to our baby's first scan because he had to mind his 15 yr old daughter. It was at this scan that the Doctor told me our daughter had died. I was utterly devastated because they were able to tell me she had Downs and Turners Syndrome. I felt so alone in that room but Thank God my mother was there with me. What made it more distressing was that I was asked what Funeral Arrangements I would like, again I was on my own. I had to go into hospital the following day for a D&C which my husband came with me. I have never got over the loss of my little baby because when it comes to Birthday's Christmas etc. I find it very difficult. What makes it more difficult is the fact that my husband doesn't want a baby. He says we are too old but he will never know the trauma that losing a baby brings. Has anyone had this with their partners. Unfortunately I will never ever know what being a mother is like and 2 yrs on I don't feel any better. I have been constantly upset and been crying continuously. Can anyone suggest where U can go to talk to someone about this
Thanks

Thingymaboob · 31/10/2016 19:27

Hi. I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm sorry but I don't know what to suggest but maybe try here:
http://www.miscarriageassociation.org.uk/

They are able to put you in touch with support groups etc. I would also suggest writing this in a new post so more people likely to read it.Flowers

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Fuzyfelt23 · 01/11/2016 09:16

So sorry Glitzy Glam... it's not my place to give an opinion but what you've been through sounds awful, i would go to your gp and ask if they can refer you to anybody. X

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AprilShowers16 · 01/11/2016 09:29

Oh ladies I'm so sorry you are going through this, I had a miscarriage the first time I got pregnant at 5 weeks. It's such a sad thing and I felt like I'd never get to have a baby. I hope it encourages you to know that I got pregnant two months later and my 3 month old baby is currently asleep on me preventing me from showering.

Something I found really helpful (when I was ready) was to write a letter to the baby I lost, telling then I loved them and would never forget them. It was so sad to say goodbye in that way but it helped me a lot.

Smurf123 · 03/11/2016 18:07

Hi im sorry to hear other people going through the same thing. I have just turned 27 and had a d and c for miscarriage about 7 and a half weeks ago.. I had a missed miscarriage baby should have been about 10 weeks but was only measuring 6 waiting 3 weeks to miscarriage naturally but nothing happened and th ey recommended surgery. Its hard cos I had come off the pill 6 months ago so we could become pregnant but weren't actively trying as we were moving countries and since losing the baby all I want it to be pregnant now. But I'm terrified of losing it again or everything. Has anyone lost weight after miscarriage? I was pretty much in the normal range for my height 5ft bt since miscarriage I've lost about 3kg. Without trying to I suppose I havent really been hungry or eating as much but others have noticed and told me. Thing is its a real effort to eat more. And I've started exercising more (I was doing none before) not to lose weight but in an effort to be fit and healthy if we are to conceive again but now I'm worried it will just make me lose more weight instead...