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Miscarriage/pregnancy loss

Find support and share your experiences on our Miscarriage forum. See also legal rights and support after baby loss.

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Advice needed - miscarried at 6 weeks

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PicknMix · 07/02/2007 21:35

I don't often post on this forum, I'm more of a 'lurker' but I'm hoping someone will be able to give me some advice as you all seem so helpful and knowledgeable.

I found out on the 15th Jan that I was pregnant (had been bleeding on and off since 9th but after much research on net worked out it may have been an implantation bleed or similar). My husband and I weren't trying to conceive but it was a 'happy mistake'. I made an appt with the Dr and she sent me for an early scan as she wasn't happy with the bleeding.

To cut a very long story short, after many many blood tests/scans/internals etc it was decided that I was either miscarrying or may have an etopic pregnancy. My hormone levels went up, then down and now they are still coming down but very slowly. An ectopic has been ruled out so an early miscarriage was diagnosed and I had thought it was all over (had severe cramping and blood loss 1.5 weeks ago) but I am still bleeding (have been since the 9th Jan.)

Today when I woke up I was suffering from bad period like cramps (again) and the bleeding has got a lot worse. Phoned the EPAC clinic and was advised to come in for another scan. Unfortunately I can't get time off work for this. Does anyone know whether its just my body going straight into another period? Is this possible??

I've found the whole experience awful, the not knowing, the hormomes, everything and this is just getting too much now. I now have so much more respect for women who experience this at a later stage of pregnancy as even at just 6 weeks pregnant its been very difficult.

Apologies for such a long ramble but would really appreciate any advice on this.

Many thanks

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Gina1981 · 07/02/2007 22:22

Hi Picknmix

I'm sorry to hear that your going through such a rough time.

The one thing to understand about miscarriage is that it's nature's way of saying that it's not meant to be and unfortunately nature isn't kind and considerate to feelings and emotions not to mention the pain and suffering one has to go through.

It is possible that you are beginning your period or it may be the final process if your body miscarring.

The one thing to do is to observe and if you find that this isn't the same as your normal period especially if you are bleeding more than normal, to seek medical advice.

If you notice big clots followed by heavy blood lose this usually indicates that the uterus is clearing out but the blood lose should slow down.

I'm only talking from experience and all women are different. I know from my experience that i bleed heavily with many clots for a week or 2 until the process was over. Then had bleeding a week later with several clots but it did slow down.

I hope this has helped

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PicknMix · 07/02/2007 22:54

Thank you Gina, I really do appreciate you saying that as I have read a few websites that say bleeding should stop after just 7-10 days which worried me as its been over that now. I really should learn not to read too many things on the internet as sometimes it can be misleading. I'm sorry to hear you have been through the same thing. It has definitely helped me to have someone 'real' with a bit of advice.

You're right about nature being a little cruel - I never realised pregnancy symptoms can continue after miscarriage which seems a bit of a kick in the teeth whilst you're down!

I shall keep an eye on things and get checked out if anything seems too different from the norm.

Thank you again

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KezzaG · 07/02/2007 23:01

HI PicknMix, Im so sorry to hear what has happened. Its a shock just how difficult an early mc is isnt it, its hard to explain how you can have so much emotional investment in something you cant see and have only known about a short time.

Personally, and this is just my opinion, I would get it checked out if the bleeding continues. I have had 2 mc, the first I was treated by the NHS and nature took its course at 6 weeks, and the second I went privately and had an ERPC. What I found so difficult about the first was that I didnt know when it would be over or what to expect next. If you can get time off to have another scan at least you will know and also be reassured that you body has expelled everything and you can start to look forward.

Hope you feel better soon (emotionally and physically).

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PicknMix · 07/02/2007 23:27

Thank you KezzaG, as you say, it seems like such a short time to get so worked up about but even though we weren't expecting to even find out I was pregnant its amazing how quickly you can get attached to the idea!

I'm gonna see how tomorrow goes and if anything gets worse or I feel really unsure about things I'll get down to the EPAC ward and get things checked out. As you say, its the not knowing that is so difficult to deal with.

Thanks for your time and sorry to hear you've been through it as well.

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Gina1981 · 09/02/2007 14:13

Hi PicknMix

How are you feeling? Any improvment?

hannah4danny · 09/02/2007 15:11

I had a miscarriage at 6 weeks, wasn't a planned pregnancy and found out early. Went to confirm at doctors and then the next day started bleeding, didn't even know until i looked down the loo (sorry if tm info) phoned doctor said to come in i did she was so unhelpful and uncaring it was scary told me there was nothing i could do. I bleed for well over a week with a slight ache. Was devestated have two children already and didn't even occur to me that i would loose it. But i think it happens more than you think. Not sure if this is really helpful but thought i would post.

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PicknMix · 10/02/2007 19:33

Only just seen your messages, sorry.

Hannah4Danny, sorry to hear what you have been through - your experience sounds similar except the EPAC unit at my local hospital have been very good, they have answered my questions and have been almost too over caring (if there is such a thing) which has certainly helped me. I agree though, I think it does happen a lot more often than people realise.

Gina, thank you for checking up on me - physically I'm feeling a lot better, had an awful night on Thursday with extremely painful cramps - didn't know what to do with myself; walk around, go to bed, it just hurt whatever I did but they have gone now.

Frustratingly I'm still bleeding, its almost like a normal period but, again, its the not knowing whats happening with my body that I am finding difficult to cope with.

Mentally I'm ok, found out yesterday that a girl at work is 4 months pregnant - was extremely shocked to find myself feeling jealous! My pregnancy wasn't planned (ironically had been diagnosed with PCOS last year and had got a bit 'slap dash' with taking precautions!) and it isn't something I thought I wanted, I've always said having children wasn't something in my plan. Having said that, this has obviously happened for a reason and its definitely shown me that both my DH and I are ready now. Haven't said that outloud before, feels strange!

I have (fingers crossed) my last blood test and scan on Tuesday and hopefully then I can put this whole episode behind me. I just wish someone could give me all the answers!!

Thank you again for asking after me, it does help.

Feel rude as I know nothing about you but I hope your having a nice weekend wherever you are!

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Stiller · 10/02/2007 19:45

I'm glad to hear that you're being looked after pic'n'mix.

It probably sounds odd but I have no idea how long I bled for after my miscarriage. I'm pretty sure that I didn't go into a period straight away but I think my cycle got back to normal pretty quickly. My DS was only 12 months when this happened and the pregnancy wasn't planned and I had no idea about my dates.

It is cruel when you lose a baby at any stage - although I'm sure I would have felt the loss much more if I'd have been further along (I think I was about 14 weeks). It happens to so many women in the first trimester and that was a comfort to me.

Sorry that this has happened. xx

Gina1981 · 10/02/2007 22:32

Hi PicknMix glad to hear your feeling better sorry to hear you had a bad night on thursday. I can sympathies with the cramps i have a monthly dose, feels like i'm in labour!

It must be hard i really feel for you it's been quite a few weeks now that you've been bleeding. Just remember it all happened for a reason and that although nature is cruel it can also be kind. I think the more we search for answers we find ourselves asking more questions.

Hope all goes well on Tuesday. Look forward to what lies ahead.

Been busy this weekend with the kids and shopping and housework and cooking and and and............. not to mention the DH. It's like having 3 kids at home!

Keep me posted anything you need just shout!

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