Time to give up trying? Anyone that has..

[Yumbun26]

Hello i'm 26 have 1 child (5) and have been trying for baby2 for 4 years suffering 6 miscarriages.
I'm wanting to hear from people that have stopped trying and what their life's have been like since.
I'm not 100% sure I'm ready to give up yet (yes I'm totally fed up and emotionally broken with going through this all the time but think I would try until I physically couldn't) my husband on the other hand is wanting to stop trying and start moving on with our life's.
Does time really heal?
At the moment all I can see is my daughter growing up without siblings -never having that bond, becoming an auntie. In a few years time she will stop believing in Santa the tooth fairy.. I don't want all that to end so soon! I know it has to one day but from wanting 4 children to only having one its difficult to change my mind set. I always wanted a busy house full of children but I'm hoping things will get easier with time.

Thanks Yum for this thread and for all the replies, they have had me in tears! I have a ds who is 2 and am struggling to have another, I've had 3 miscarriages so far. We are going to try again, but if that doesn't work out then I really don't know how much longer I can keep putting myself through this, it feels like my life is on hold and I'm missing out on happy family life waiting for something which may not happen. It would be much easier without the only child stigma and the pregnant women everywhere. It feels like literally everyone else has two children...not sure why that bothers me so much, as I am usually happy to go against the grain on other things. Sorry for all of your losses X

Hi Bon sorry for your losses it's such an emotional journey when this happens isn't it I'm so glad this post has helped it certainly helped me. Im the same I like been different but never wanted an only child for some reason I've always been so against it but not any more. I'm looking at the positives now. I'm looking forward to planning the next stages of our life as 3, we are booking a trip to Lapland which we certainly wouldn't have afforded to do anytime soon with 2 children. And also looking into fostering for when dd is a few years older as we have always talked about it that when we've had 2/3 of our own we would do it but now we've made the choice to stop trying we can do it sooner.
It's still painful seeing large family's and pregnant women but that will get easier I'm sure now I'm coming to terms with our new family image.

I know what you mean about having your life on hold and missing out, my dh was always saying this but I couldn't see it until now I've sat with dds scrapbook looking at all the nice times we have had over the last few years (which I've been on and off pregnant for) they make me smile but all I can think about is - I was pregnant there, I was upset there, we should of had a two year old there. And it just clicked it's time to move on.
You will know when the times right it will still be hard for a while but you will know you have made the right decision and stop feeling guilty for your dd not having a sibling because it isn't the end of the world they will still be happy xx