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Miscarriage/pregnancy loss

Is this the beginning of a miscarriage?

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Josie01 · 09/09/2016 10:11

Yesterday I attended the EPU and had a scan after some small spotting. I was convinced it was fine, expecting to see a baby on the screen. Like what happened with my son.

My dates were right out. I thought I'd be 9 weeks today (approx), but the 'baby' is measuring 5 weeks.

The lady told me if I'd have said I was 5 weeks, it would have been fine.

Anyway, I'm starting to bleed. Not heavily. I have back ache and lower abdominal pain. Like I'm about to have a terrible period.

I think I know I am going to miscarry. I just don't know what to do. I don't know whether to wait for my appointment next week. Or call them today. I'm scared.

What I wouldn't give for this to not be happening. We've just been so happy these past couple of weeks. Now it's crashing down around me.

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BastardGoDarkly · 14/09/2016 22:12

Awwww sweetheart, I'm so glad your oh is being supportive, it's the absolute pits

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BrieMonster · 16/09/2016 14:40

Hope your appointment is ok. (Not sure what I mean actually!) Thinking of you though.

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Josie01 · 16/09/2016 16:37

Thanks Brie.

My appointment was fine, was what I was expecting. She told me I was right and that I have miscarried. Everything is back to normal, so kind of a relief that I don't have to go through surgery.

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BrieMonster · 16/09/2016 21:38

"The best kind of miscarriage" is what they told me. At the time it didn't mean much, but yes surgery etc must make it more harrowing. I am generally at peace with it now but so sad to hear you have such a similar story. Glad you have two weeks off to be yourself and deal with the grief however you'd like. I decided to try again straight away and it work for us. But that's not what everyone wants. I'm so sorry.

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MotherDuckSaid · 16/09/2016 22:31

Good luck with whatever u decide, unfortunately most women experience such loss at some stage (not to lessen ur experience at all). It's just so awfully sad. Hope taking time to regroup before heading back to work are cathartic for u x so glad u have a solid OH to lean on
Take care, be kind to yourself

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Josie01 · 17/09/2016 10:37

Thank you for your comments. I agree it really is the pits.

Brie, was yours recent? I kind of see their comment, I was just so worried about surgery. the midwives were so sympathetic and kind.

Motherducksaid, no I understand what you're saying. It's just all the hush surrounding miscarriage that I really will not understand. It is so common and we don't speak of it.

I'm currently building up the bottle to tell my mum, she's currently on holiday. I really don't want to upset her while she's there, but I know she'll be more upset if she doesn't know.

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BrieMonster · 17/09/2016 20:37

I would tell her, my mum sent me flowers and listened to me crying down the phone. She'll want to support you even if she's upset for you, right?
Mine wasn't recent, 4 years. (24th sept.. I guess I Haven't forgotten!) Now have 3 and 5 years old DS. I knew nothing about miscarriage, totally oblivious, so I didn't know enough to fear surgery. Really glad you don't have to deal with that as well.
I told everyone, and only had one friend be a knob about it, dismissive. Everyone else was great. You might prefer for it to be private, but I'd tell your mum, if I were you.

I also went to the beach, cried, lit a candle, fought with my partner and shouted that maybe it had been for the best, cried, went out for dinner. That was my manner of dealing. And I posted on here.

Hope you're ok today.