ERPC (scared about scarring) v medical management (scared about pain)

[AKP79]

Looking for advice/experiences. I need to decide on Thurs between an ERPC or medically managed miscarriage.

We had an internal scan Christmas Eve following a concerning private scan the day before and found that despite the sac being 9 weeks the baby had died at 6 weeks.

I don't want to wait it out for things to happen naturally, so I now need to decide between a medically managed miscarriage or ERPC. And I have concerns about both.

A very close friend of mine had an ERPC and is now infertile, she was told the fertility issues were as a direct result from the scarring from her ERPC. This really scares me.

I've read about medically managed miscarriages and I'm yet to read anything which sounds remotely positive. It sounds incredibly painful and as I am allergic to things like co-codemol this also worries me. I also have a 4 year old son who I need to look after.

Can anyone help with their experiences/thoughts. I have absolutely no gut feeling about what I want to do and am finding this an impossible decision as well as dealing with the obvious emotions of loss.

[iloveberries]

I opted for med mgt as (1) was so scared about scarring having already had an ectopic and tube removal and (2) I wanted to "deliver" my baby. My ectopic was so "medical" and I hated the thought that my tube and baby were probably chucked in a clinic waste bin.

It was painful, but not THAT bad and I was only on nurofen / paracetamol. A very personal choice but if I was ever in that place again id do the same. Currently miscarrying again "naturally".

Sorry this has happened to you