What do I DO with the remains after miscarriage?

[TristanFarnon]

Today I have miscarried. I had the news last week that the poor little thing had no heartbeat, and was measuring 6 weeks when it should have been 8 so it has come as no surprise.

I have a scan next week to make sure everything is over, but today I passed a lump about the size of a golf ball. I knew what was happening so 'caught' it in some paper, but now I don't know what to actually do. I don't want to flush or throw it away as that doesn't seem right but I am realy at a loss.

Any advice or suggestions gladly accepted.

You could choose a special plant and put it underneath? (Maybe in a pot in case you move house?)
Very sorry for your loss

Thank you. Sadly it is my third loss, but perviously I had a neonatal death and a surgically managed miscarriage so others helped me deal with the aftermath so to speak. I have found it very viseral and raw this time, even though I wasn't really very pregnant at all. I feel shocked and really shaken.

The plant idea is lovely. My worry is that I am a terrible gardener and may kill it! I'd feel dreadful. Any other ideas would be very welcome too x

I'm so sorry Tristan

I would agree 100% with mouth that is a very good idea... I would recommend a long lasting house plant. (like a cheese plant --I'm not very green fingered).

Sorry to hear of your mc Tristan, I hope you are being kind to yourself and recovering well. I guess you are no longer in need of advice so I'm posting mainly because someone else may see this and be wondering the same thing.

I was in the same position this morning and, not knowing what to do with it, I phoned my EPAU (where I had been being seen) and they suggested I could take it in to them and told me about a woodland burial thing they do which is a really lovely idea. I took it over there this afternoon and I'm going to speak to the chaplain who organises it on Monday but I feel better knowing my baby will be put to rest somewhere proper.

Roses would be very happy to have the gift, Tristan. So sorry for your loss. x

So sorry for your loss. I planted a rose bush - maybe something like that

i went for a rose bush - and am a terrible gardener as well....
so sorry for your losses