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Do you think my best friend is lying about a miscarriage?

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Alicejohnson23xxxx · 22/09/2015 18:31

My friend is well known for making stories up.
She has been trying for a baby for 4 years with no luck.
Her period was late by a week so she took pregnancy test and she said two came up positive ( appeared after time and looked like evap lines) anyway she told everyone she was pregnant etc and worked out she was 5 weeks.
Her bf bought her two digital tests they came back negative the doctor did blood nothing showed up then pregnancy test all negative.
She told the doc she was getting pain so she got sent for a scan.
Told me her bf was going then rang me saying I lost the baby.
She said she was 6 weeks but the baby wasn't moving it had died.
She said they gave her a tablet there and then and said she has to go back Thursday for the next.
I bumped into her bf and he thought I had took her to hospital today I said no she said you had ...does this sound right to you?

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GinandJag · 22/09/2015 18:34

Some women have false pregnancies, often when they have a strong desire to be pregnant.

It's a psychological condition that needs loving support rather than suspicion and condemnation.

Alicejohnson23xxxx · 22/09/2015 18:36

I didn't mean it to sound like that.
I myself have suffered 5 miscarriages and just the thought this was another story was a bit hard to take.

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TheFear · 22/09/2015 18:40

At six weeks there's not much could be seen on a scan. Certainly not a moving baby.

Alicejohnson23xxxx · 22/09/2015 18:43

When I had my 2nd miscarriage I was 7 weeks and all they could see was a empty sac.
Nothing else

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Jackie0 · 22/09/2015 18:46

A chemical pregnancy perhaps ?
This happened to someone close to me and she didn't really understand and she felt others didn't believe that she had had a positive pregnancy test, I can see how adding a few details might be tempting.
Whatever is going on it seems like she could use a friend.

lljkk · 22/09/2015 18:46

Do you feel close enough to talk to the boyfriend honestly?
Might want to stay well out, or you might feel the need to gently find the truth for his sake.

SaltySeaBird · 22/09/2015 18:48

Possibly. I had a friend who said she could emphasise with my miscarriages now she had had one.

Turns out her period was a week late and heavier than normal but she never had a positive test (it was too late apparently). She decided to call it a miscarriage.

I had very different experiences myself. I cant think badly of her, and don't want to minimise what she feels she went through though - everyone has their own reasons for what they say and how they perceive experiences. After trying for four years she might just need to feel it was a bigger event than maybe it was in order to have something to focus the pain of infertility on. Another friend who was having fertility issues once said she wished she had a miscarriage instead of nothing, at least she would feel she stood a chance of getting pregnant.

I'd never wish a miscarriage on anybody having been through two.

Alicejohnson23xxxx · 22/09/2015 18:52

I wouldn't either.
It's just a empty hopeless feeling ..well it was for me.
She wants a baby so bad so I understand how it must feel.
I'm going to support her best I can because whatever way you look at it she still needs a friend.

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Sighing · 24/09/2015 20:50

I did have a sight of a pole/ fetus at 6 weeks (actually OK) unfortunately a mmc by 12 weeks. I've also lost at 9 weeks but the report suggested 6 week fetus. I
Unusual to get immediate treatment as dates would be checked at a first scan.
It is unusual to get negatives before the baby is lost.
Clearly she's suffering over fertility.

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