Is this a mmc? I just need to know

[NoodleBugs]

I should be 9 weeks. I'm certain of my dates. I started bleeding last night. Went to EPAU, they took blood and told me all was fine. I asked for a scan, they said they didn't have anyone that could scan, and to wait for this morning.
Had a scan this morning. They said baby is 6 weeks and they couldn't see a heartbeat. To me, this is a mmc. Doctor thinks differently, told me to stop crying, and come back in a week as everything could be "just fine". I know my dates, and as far as I know, pregnancies don't date three weeks behind.
This is a mmc, isn't it? I just feel like I want to know. Everyone from A&E through to Dr this morning made me feel stupid and kept telling me to look on the bright side, and "think positively". I don't want a week of "thinking positively" to be devastated next week.

Hi NoodleBugs,

I have gone through something similar recently, and I really feel for you. The uncertainty is terrible. I have heard before that measurements where off and that babies can 'catch up' growth wise. It is probably quite difficult to take accurate measurements on something that small. This coupled with that you might be a few days off (?) and all will be good?

What I did was hope for the best, but also prepared myself for things going wrong....

I hope some other mums can come with examples where all went well in the end, I have read plenty elsewhere. Unfortunately for me the outcome was not good.

All the best - hope your next scan will give you some good news!

Hugs xxx

They always do this (play it safe until absolutely clear what is going on). I find it pretty excruciating. A week is a bloody long time when you are waiting.

1. Was it an internal or external scan? External ones can be inaccurate at this point, internal ones less so.

1. Can they not do rising HCG blood test (2 tests, 48 hours apart) to check the HCG is rising and at what rate? Much quicker idea will be got this way?

1. On what date did you first get a positive pregnancy test??- THIS is the key thing in my experience, not ovulation dates, lmp dates etc, but the date of the test.

You can not have got a positive test before you were pregnant, you might have only been ten days (or at a pinch 7 days pregnant to get a positive) but you would have to BE pregnant, if that makes sense.

If the date of that test was four weeks ago, you could have ovulated very late, conceived very late and BE six weeks pregnant (by there reckoning) and it all be OK

If you got a positive test 6 or 7 weeks ago, making you 8 or 9 weeks pregnant by dates today, it would be really unlikely for a HB not to be visible by now....

My heart goes out to you, its a horrible wait.Do try and push for rising bloods.

sorry just seen from your op they did take bloods last night- did they give you any indication of the HCG level from that first test?

Thank you for your kind replies.

HCG levels last night were "as they should be", whatever that is. No chance of them repeating them. I was "lucky" to get a scan.

The last time I had sex was 2nd July, BFP was 16th July (v.v faint).

Does this mean there's a tiny, tiny change things could be OK? Bleeding continues today, very light. Not as much as a period, but red and fresh. No pain.

I really hate this.

Hi NoodleBugs, oh I wish I could tell you the answers and put you out of your horrible waiting! I've had to do that wait more than once and my heart goes out to you.

My reading is, saying you got pregnant on the 7th July (which is perfectly possible as sperm can hang about)....very very faint test on the 16th because it was only 9/10 days after this, rather than the 14 for a stronger result,

...but that according to dating purposes is the 4 week mark (when you get your BFP) not the 2 week mark (as they count from 2 weeks prior) which would mean by this counting it would be around week 9 by now, which is what you thought originally....

Of course there is a chance things could be OK, that is why they haven't been negative with you yet, and I've got everything crossed for you, but I think annanas's advice to hope for the best but prepare for the worst is the best