Another miscarriage. In limbo.

[Threefaries]

Hi

I'm experiencing pretty much what I think is miscarriage number 6. I'm 7 weeks. Earlier on I experienced some pregnancy symptoms. These have now gone. Last Friday I had a tiny amount of brown loss and a little more on and off when wiping since. I have children and experienced severe constant nausea and vomiting all the way through the pregnancies. I've had varying levels of sickness with the miscarriages. I'm quite sure it's another missed miss. I don't have any pain. By now I would be vomiting if the pregnancy was progressing. I can't stand the thought of going through another scan etc. I'm not sure if I should just sit tight and wait for events to unfold, but at the same time don't want to spend weeks in limbo waiting to miscarry.

I just need to put this out there as I feel a bit out of sorts with it all. Thanks for reading.

Hi

Sorry to hear that you feel a bit out of sorts, that is perfectly understandable as I am going through exactly the same thing. I am 6 weeks after a mmc in December at 7 weeks. I too have had brown spotting mainly on wiping since last weds. I am in two minds whether to hold out a little longer before going to epu to see if things happen naturally. I don't want to have to go through another round of internal scans and blood tests as it will remind me of what happened last time.

But, if I do go to the epu nd have the checks I will find out for sure either way much quicker. It is a real dilemma isn't it with no right or wrong answers.

I hope you are able to decide what to do. I feel for you.

Take care

Hi and thanks for responding. I'm sorry to hear that your having a difficult time too. It's pretty scary stuff getting pregnant again after a miscarriage. I really hope things work out for you. Your kind words are really helpful and yes it's awful to go through the motions, it brings the past back too. I just don't want to sit here in limbo wondering when I am going to start bleeding. Everything is a bit on hold. My children are always around and I have nobody to mind them so it's a bit difficult to sneak off for a scan. Part of me is scared to have it confirmed what I already know.

Have you experienced your previous loss and this pregnancy without other comparisons if you don't mind me asking? Many women do bleed a little in early pregnancy and everything is fine. Some women don't experience pregnancy symptoms and everything is okay. I really hope this pregnancy works out for you. It's such a rollercoaster getting pregnant again after a loss. I'm just pretty sure what's going on because I've experienced several miscarriages and successful pregnancies before.

Thanks for your reply.

Yes it is very scary being pregnant after a mc. Do you mind me asking how long on your previous mc you spotted before the actual mc started? Last time i spotted brown for about 8 days before the mc happened naturally. I am now on day 6 of spotting this time. I also had lots of brown spotting since the day after ovulation this time so was suprised to be pregnant.

I do have two older children in their early teens. I had morning sickness with both of them. I also had a tiny bit of red spotting with them too but never this continuous brown spotting.

I hope things do work out for you and if ut is a mc then that you get time to rest and recuperate. Good luck and take care.

My misc have been slightly different. One was a molor pregnancy, i didn't bleed, my loss was picked up on scan then I went on to have a medical management. With some of the others I had a small pinkish loss for 2-4 days then went onto miss. I had a missed miss at just under 13 weeks. I noticed fresh red loss days before my schedualed dating scan. I had a scan at epac and it showed a 6 week pregnancy. I knew my dates were correct. I went into pass the pregnancy myself at home within the next few days.

i wonder if because you've spotted since conception then things will eventually settle down? Did you have any sporting close to conception with your loss?

It does sound like you have had very differing experiences each time. I think you are very strong and brave to keep trying.

Yes i did have spotting around ovulation on the last miscarriage. I have had loads of spotting since the mc though but scans and tests don't show anything.

Such a worrying and stressful time for you. I will keep everything crossed that you will have a sticky little baby in there.

Ive just phoned the GP. He was completely unsympathetic. He made a huge point of how busy he is and has 24 other patients to see. Not at all interested despite my history. The best he could do was book me in for an apt with one of the GP's in a weeks time.

All I can say is that I've experienced a lot of tears but looking at my lovely children I am so glad that I did keep trying otherwise I wouldn't have them, they are very much worth it all. This pregnancy has been a huge surprise, not at all planned. Each day drags doesn't it!

Oh no. Sorry to hear your GP treated you like that. That is shocking. Do you have a early pregnancy unit at a local hospital that you could self refer to? You shouldn't be left like that.

Thank you for the good luck wishes for a sticky one. I am trying to remain positive but it is hard. If i felt pregnant then maybe i would be more positive but kind of feel the outcome is inevitable.

I am not suprised there have been a lot of tears. Yes the children do make it all worthwhile.

Stay strong. Let me know how you get on.

Hi

I managed to get a scan yesterday by contacting the hospital. They don't normly do self referrals so I was lucky to get one. The pregnancy is not going anywhere and I'm waiting to miscarry. I really hope that things turn out differently for you xx

Oh threefaries, I am so sorry to hear that the news isn't good. I know it is what you were expecting but it is still heartbreaking to have that news. I hope you manage to rest, be kind to yourself and that you have some support over this time. I hope this bit is over quickly. Again, I am so sorry to hear about your loss.

I will update you when I have more news.

Look after yourself xx

Hi again

Thank you for your kind words. I passed the pregnancy Tuesday morning and my blood loss is now starting to settle down. I feel a bit robbed. Trying not to get into the mental counting of how many weeks I would have been.

How are you getting on? I hope your okay?