Struggling to cope in early pregnancy after recent miscarriage

[butterflygirl1515]

Hi,

I'm really struggling to cope with the anxiety in this pregnancy that I will miscarry again. I'm currently 8 weeks gone and I'm getting brown stringy discharge and some pains. I can't get it out of my head that that happened before miscarriage in march. I had it in weeks 4 and 5 and had 2 early scans which found all was ok. But the same happened last time in that the discharge started up again and I lost the baby at week 9.

I keep trying to tell myself that the discharge is fairly common and doesn't have to be connected with a miscarrige. I don't know how I'm going to make it till 12 weeks for the next scan. Every time I go to the loo I expect to see blood or the featus. Just finding it so hard to cope at the moment. Thanks for reading.

I'm so very sorry for your loss, butterflygirl, and my heart goes out to you in your current anxiety. I've just had a mmc and I know that I'm never going to trust my body again - the experience of miscarriage makes early pregnancy so incredibly fraught. I just wanted to say that there is a great thread on the Pregnancy pages for those who are pregnant after miscarriage - lots of handholding and support and advice. I hope you have someone in real life too who you can reassure you and look after you. Do know that just because this happened in your earlier pregnancy, doesn't mean the outcome will be the same in this one.

Hi tiger milk,
Thanks so much for your reply. After an anxiety filled
weekend and trying to be less so last couple of days iv just had a scan at EPU. Thankfully alls fine with the baby and it was amazing to see it kick and move around. Thet couldn't find a cause of the discharge and pain so just one of those things. I'm 9.4 !along so not long to 12 week scan now but feeling much relived as it was at 9 weeks the previous featus stopped developing and miscarried at week 12.

Im so sorry to hear of your mmc. I hope you will have a better experience if you conceive again. Very best wishes. X

It is hard.

I had an early miscarriage, and it took until the 20 week scan before I calmed down about it all the next time around.

The only thing I can suggest is try to keep yourself occupied so you don't dwell too much on it, as well as seeking out support -your partner, your family, and call EPAC or your GP if anything concerns you.

Good luck and I hope all will be well this time.

Hi all
I'd just gone through my second frozen embryo transfer and the latter was successful. I would have been 9 weeks pregnant tomorrow if I hadn't lost the baby today.
Life is so unfair as I am struggling tonight to cope with my miscarriage. Such an unpleasant experience. Feeling very low