Clutching at straws

[Strawclutching]

Named changed in case I'm recognised.

I started bleeding on Sunday. Very light discharge at first. Starting and stopping. Never overnight. Monday and Tuesday evenings it was more blood like but still not heavy just spotting (I would call it) haven't bled at all today.

Had emergency scan this morning. I was told there was no heartbeat. Obviously devastated. However they say the baby is 8 weeks (from size). My last period was June 10th (had not had sex the week before). Didn't have sex again until the 23rd I ovulate day 17/18). I think there is no way on earth it can be 8 weeks. I think I'm more like 5.5 weeks-6 weeks.

Am I clutching at straws or is there the tiniest chance that the heartbeat hasn't developed enough yet to be seen? Or am I kidding myself and just need to come to terms with it? (Please be kind I'm fragile!)

As soon as I read your date, and 8 weeks, I thought that makes no sense. I'm a month ahead of you so it immediately stuck out.

From my reading when I miscarried, a sorts of weird things seem to happen. Measuring bigger but actually being earlier would fall into that. The margins are tiny so there's room for error.

I bled when I miscarried, and when i didn't. For me the blood for miscarrying increased whereas the non problematic stuff is more erratic. And miscarriage I felt some pain, slight at first. Non miscarriage I didn't.

So to my mind it could go either way, but I wouldn't give up hope. When I miscarried my date stuff was the other way, for it to be ok I would have had to have a positive test before I was even pregnant. You know what's possible from your dates.

Fingers crossed for you.

Hi Straw,

I'm not sure I can help medically but I am sorry for the distress and horrible time you're having.
Are you booked in for a follow up?

No because of where I live. Although they have given me numbers to ring in emergency and the woman who saw me gave me her number if I changed my mind about having the operation.

I have set a timescale of a week. If nothing happens I'll contact them again. It's just I have a fierce feeling that this isnt a miscarriage but I worry it's denial.

Chazzer how long was it before it got painful?

Well I knew mine felt wrong the whole time.

If I'm honest, the tiny pains were there from when I bled. Small enough to pretend they weren't there, but they were. So my bleeding started proper on the sat (still pretty sporadic), was more constant by the mon although still very light, scan mon, properly miscarrying weds. Bad unignorable pain tues eve, tiny pain sun.

Been thinking of you - hope you're ok

Thank you Chazzer. Nothing happening yet but I think my hope is dropping as time goes on. I'll call my midwife Monday if nothing has changed. Back to work today which Im dreading in case something happens in front of people.

Hope it goes ok.

I was 7/8 weeks when miscarried and the bleeding was never sudden or uncontrollable. When it got to be really heavy there was pain too. So in my case there would have been ample warning

My midwife called today to see how I was. I told her my morning sickness had kicked in and she seemed surprised. I'm still desperately clinging to there being some kind of mistake. Still no bleeding.

I will wait till next Wednesday and if nothing has happened I'll call the ePu and ask for a rescan.

Poor you. Horrible situation to be in.

For me, the bleeding changed in quantity and colour the night before the miscarriage unmistakably happened. I've had 2 successful pregnancies with light spotting in the early days.

All the best.

Having another scan on Wednesday as still nothing happening. I know the first one can't be wrong but I just can't get rid if this clawing hope.

How did you get on clutching?

Chazzer I had a miracle and they found a heartbeat. Had another scan yesterday and it was still there. They've apologised as they realised they made a mistake. I'm still only 9-10 weeks so am still very nervous. Thank you for thinking of me.