I had my first miscarriage at 5+2 at the end of March after falling pg on first attempt (would have been DC3). Although I'd only found out that I was pg 4 days previously it was, and continues to be, mentally very hard, although mercifully physically no worse than a normal period. When TTC, DH and I have always kept it to ourselves as I feel like it places a lot of pressure on the whole event if other people know and it seems like such a personal thing. When the MC happened, DH, who is great at practical support, was so utterly crap on an emotional level that I ended up telling most of my friends about the MC, which was great at the time, and I got so much support and strength from friends who had been through the same thing.
But now I don't know what to say when people ask me if we're trying again. The truth is that we've been trying (sadly unsuccessfully) again since the MC ended. People who've asked outright I've told I'm not ready yet and people who haven't asked I've tried to be deliberately vague. I've told two friends the truth, partly because I rarely see them in person which somehow makes it easier, one is having issues TTC DC1 so we are supporting each other. But I'm now forgetting what I've said to who, and wondering how much longer I can claim to be 'not ready' for. The worst situation is with a close friend who announced her second pg 8 weeks after the MC who asks me pretty much every time I see her, which is obviously hard for me anyway now, what we're going to do. She made a big deal at the time about how great it was that she got pg straightaway as there was no pressure etc. and I feel like she's pitying me enough, without her knowing that I'm now trying and failing to conceive again.
Don't know what I'm looking for really, probably some cure all sentence that will permanently stop the questions. 