Anniversary of Miscarriage

[temporaryname2015]

Hi all
Today is the Anniversary of when i started bleeding and having cramps and had to go to the hospital. And when my world came crashing down. I didnt have the scan to confirm the loss of my baby until two days later , which is Thursdays date.

Not sure which day to count the loss from. I had a horrible inbetween day to the scan in which i knew it would be bad news. I feel being sad for the next few days is just being cruel to myself.

I have been ttc for 8 months and Thursday is also the day im due Af. So its going to be an extra slap in the
Face.

I found the due date a sad day but not particulary difficult, i think because i dont belive that was the true due date. I belived it would have been a few weeks later just in time for my birthday. That day i found terribly sad and difficult.

Alone today until the late evening as other half working late.

Any words of advice, storys how you coped or just a listening ear really appriciated.

Xx

I have no helpful advice but I'm so sorry for your loss

Hi thats ok Thank-you for your reply and kind words it means a lot
Xx

Just wanted to say sorry for your loss as well, and also that you can't help the way you feel. If you feel sad, be sad - you'd feel worse if you pretended you were fine. Look after yourself over the next few days, and do things to help you feel happier.
I know when I feel sad over my first miscarriage, I get a scarf out that I bought when I was pregnant and it makes me think of her.
Hugs.

Hi Iliketea

Its true that if you try and mask your feelings it only makes it worse.
I just dont want to be upset at work and make errors.

Like you say though, allow myself to be sad i dont suppose i have to "pick" a day to mourn, its all going to be a sad time regardless.

Im so sorry for the loss of your daughter Im pleased you have the scarf as a form of comfort thats really sweet. I hope you are in a better place now and find things a little easier.

Thankyou again for your reply
Xxx

I have many miscarriages (almost double figures).

I am a get on with it sort generally which is just how I deal with things.

We bought a little silver bean after the first one which sits on a window ledge in my bedroom. I used to feel really low on the anniversary of the first one (on a significant date so hard not to associate it with the m/c) I ate chocolate, watched a film and remembered all the lost possibilities.

I am now 10 years on from the first one but only a year since the last one -the date passed me by this year, for the first time. I didn't have that sense of loss that you can't forget. I took that as a good sign, a sign that I have come to terms with it all.

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I just wanted to let you know that you're not alone. I am a month away from the anniversary of my miscarriage and it has really brought it all back already - knowing this time last year I was pregnant, and this year I am still ttc and not pregnant again yet. It hurts a lot of the time but approaching the anniversary, it feels a whole lot worse. I hope it gets easier after the first year and I'm sure getting pregnant again will help but this bit in between just really sucks hey. Fingers crossed for a brighter year ahead for us both x