missed miscarriage

[steph181]

I went for my dating scan yesterday at what should have been 11+3 to be told that all they can find is an empty sac approx 4 weeks. My LMP was 10th Feb and I got a BFP on 14th March. Yet the hospital tried to make me feel like I got my dates wrong!

I spotted/lightly bled from 6 weeks to 8 weeks and said I had very little symptoms apart from sore boobs and tiredness. Both doctor and midwife said nothing to worry about unless heavy bleeding or bad pain and every pregnancy is different.

The hospital are insisting I need another scan to confirm a none viable pregnancy, but I know it's not right due to my dates. Also I can't face going to the hospital around pregnant women and knowing I'm not going to see my baby.

My heads in a mess at the moment. I want to get rid of whatever's inside of me so I can stop feeling pregnant but can't face the hospital. I feel angry at my doctors as this could have been sorted a month ago but instead iv been bonding with a baby that never was.

So sorry for what you are going through, it must've been such a shock. I had a mmc two weeks ago, similar to you with no symptoms whatsoever.

From my experience, the hospital will need to confirm with another scan & they usually have to do this a day or so apart. It's so hard when you know your dates are right but I guess they have official guidelines they have to follow.

I felt similar to you in that I just wanted it over with quickly. Different hospitals offer different options (surgical, medical or expectant management); do you have an EPU (early pregnancy unit) nearby that you could call for advice?

It's such a sad situation to find yourself in & there are lots of platitudes, I won't mention them but look after yourself. xxx

Really sorry you're going through this Steph. I've had this twice now where I've gone directly to EPU due to spotting. First time they saw empty yolk sac, but no fetal pole. 2nd time saw heartbeat but was too slow. Both times they asked if I could have got the dates wrong and had to go back for scan a week later. This was so they could see if there's been any development. It's really horrible waiting for the 2nd scan, but must be their protocol. At the 2nd scan they should give you options for what to do next. Big hugs

My local Epu only see you on doctors referral otherwise i would have gone in when i was bleeding before.

They have booked me in for next Friday but I was so upset I didn't get the details. They phoned my partner after we left and he has been trying to convince me to go so they must have told him the appointment time.

Iv been reading up on the procedures and don't fancy surgical as never had a general anaesthetic before and reacted badly to a local at the dentist.

Do they offer MVA (manual vacuum aspiration) at your hospital? I react really badly to anaesthetic but couldn't face managing it at home. I was booked in the same week I found out, had a bit of light bleeding for a few days & it's stopped now. I found this much easier than when I miscarried naturally at home but it's still very clinical. I did post my experience on a thread on here (MVA for MMC), if you wanted to know more about the practicalities.

They're all horrible options really, I guess you have to think about what you can cope with the best xxx

I'm not sure what the hospital offer. She said it's wait it out or booked in for removal as a day case but they would discuss my options after the second scan. Am having some cramps today but not sure if it's from the transvaginal ultrasound yesterday as she was poking around quite a bit.

will speak to my partner when he gets home about what the hospital said and go for the second scan. At least then I can have a definite answer

Sounds like a good plan. (I found heat pads or a hot water bottle really soothing for cramps). xx