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MMC - starting to bleed now and really scared

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megarobotdiscoparty · 02/05/2015 07:46

My MMC was discovered at 7 week scan on Monday. I'd been desperate for ERPC buy have just started to bleed by myself and am now really anxious and feel out of control. I thought it would start with spotting but it's reasonably heavy already - no worse than a heavy period at the moment though but literally just started. I've no idea how long I will bleed for, how heavy it will be, whether I can go outside and function normally, how I will feel....should I cancel all plans? It would be so embarrassing and awful to start bleeding dramatically at the hairdressers/toddler birthday party/at work/in public at all! I know everybody is so different but I have no benchmarks at all really. If anyone could share their experiences or reassure me that would really help. Thank you.

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sebsmummy1 · 02/05/2015 07:50

So worry megarobot Sad

My experience of a miscarriage at 6 weeks was a heavy period. Lasted 2 weeks, then a week off, then my period arrived, then the first cycle was a bit wonky, second cycle pretty normal.

Did they tell you what gestation the foetus was? For example some women will present at '7 weeks' but the egg was that of 4 weeks, ie just a yolk sac kind of thing. The less developed the pregnancy tissue is the more likelihood of it feeling very much like a bad period.

sebsmummy1 · 02/05/2015 07:51

*sorry

megarobotdiscoparty · 02/05/2015 07:54

They didn't sebsmummy but it was basically just sac and yolk visible so fx it won't be too bad. Did you find you were able to get on with normal stuff? I feel all over the place ...don't know what to think. Thanks for replying so quickly.

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sebsmummy1 · 02/05/2015 08:40

Yes. I felt like you, I was expecting a big 'whoosh' but really it doesn't happen like that unless you are quite far along.

Stock up on big towels, the night time variety are good, and get some good painkillers incase it gets crampy (I only cramped for one day right at the end). It really was ok, just upsetting emotionally. You may see some clots but I don't think you are likely to see the sac, I can't absolutely rule that out though so maybe be prepared and don't scrutinise unless you actually want to. Some women find it therapeutic to save the sac and bury it under a plant or tree. Personally I didn't see anything bar blood and small clots.

Big hugs xxxxx

MyNameIsSuz · 02/05/2015 08:48

Sorry mega Flowers

Did you have an erpc booked already? I had a two week wait in between mmc and erpc, during which time I also started bleeding like a normal period. I had exactly the same worries about suddenly flooding and spent that week working from home, only going out to collect my boy (ten minute walk, big pads in my pants!). It never happened, I never passed the sac and needed the op after all. So you never know.

I'd say be cautious but just take it as it comes, try to be as prepared as possible as sebsmummy said. I found those heat patches you stick on your back really good, and kept taking my vitamins as I felt supremely unhealthy and weak. I'm glad I carried on with as much as I could that week as I needed the time after the erpc, but only do what you feel up to.

Meganlilly89 · 02/05/2015 08:48

Mega.. Just seen this post.. So sorry?? my bleeding has been like a heavy period apart from Wednesday for a few hours where I was bleeding more and passing clots ?? and yesterday afternoon it happened again. I was out yesterday morning and just had a feeling something wasn't right and I went home, glad I did as it went very heavy again. Seems to have calmed down again today I'm just very tired.

I think just listen to your body, if you feel ok etc then carry on as normal if you want to, my cramps were quite painful when I was in the bad episodes and I think that's what was telling me it was going to get worse if that makes sense?

Stoatystoat · 02/05/2015 08:53

mega I am so sorry for what you are going through. I went through the same as you except I had medical management so it was induced, but physically the same, just planned I guess.

Timescales and stuff, I hope this helps:

Day 1 - a Saturday - spotting in the afternoon, maybe about 2/3/4 o clock and early evening that then got much heavier in the night

day 2 - passed the sac at about 10/11am. I expected that to be bad but it wasn't, I didn't feel it, came out while I was weeing. I was pissing in Tupperware as held by DH. The only reason I knew was DH went 'oh' and I knew what was happening. Mine was just the sac, no baby hence the MMC. I found this comforting, insofar as I wasn't as freaked out as I could have been. I stopped at home this day, I was so emotional, couldn't have done anything or gone anywhere. Judging by your heavy bleeding, I think the main event will be done in the next day or two. After that it's like a period, or was for me anyway. Other people report their MC as being done within 6 hours or so.

After that, I think I carried on bleeding, just like having a REALLY heavy period for the next week, within 10 days it had tailed off. For a few days after I continued wearing panty liners, not much was coming, but enough to ruin my knickers. For these days, I was able to go out and about my normal business of emotionally okay.

Had a scan 10 days after MC, inconclusive. Had another scan a week later, in that time, no more bleeding. 2nd scan, everything had settled.

The first period was 28 days after mc (the 2nd was not as clockwork!!!! Damn my getting smug thinking I'm in working order). That period was 9 days compared to my usual 5. That first period was VERY heavy and clotty and worse than the mc at times, the flow was just so much.

I hope this helps. It is 2 and a bit months since mine. I get sad still but it's amazing how far I have come.

Will try and pop in again but do PM if you have anything you want to ask or talk about.

megarobotdiscoparty · 02/05/2015 17:17

Thankyou stoat megan suz sebsmummy I am so sorry we've all had to go through this Flowers Thank you so much for sharing.

My bleeding has steadied out and is currently like a normal period. Have carried on with my day but feel beyond exhausted and keep having to go back to bed. Feel lucky that it has begun at the start of a bank holiday so DH can be with me though.

Thanks again for all your responses, they've really helped ease the panic. Going to take each day as it comes and listen to what my body needs.

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Stoatystoat · 02/05/2015 17:38

I remember feeling wiped out now that you mention it, and in fact for a good few weeks after. You've basically got the downsides to pregnancy at the moment as I've heard with a MMC it takes a while for your body to cotton on that you aren't pregnant. So do take it easy. Things that nourish you and please you are on the agenda

Take care

GinPleaseThankYou · 02/05/2015 20:08

So sorry you're going through this. Flowers

I was totally wiped out. Take all the time you need; your body is going through something traumatic and you will need time to deal with it and then heal and recover afterwards.

The Practicalities of Miscarriage thread will help you; I'll bump it for you.

Much love.

megarobotdiscoparty · 03/05/2015 10:37

gin thanks so much for bumping - that thread should be published into a book!!

Well after my steady start things went a bit mad last night. Had a few small clots and tissue loss before bed buy nothing major and no real pain beyond period aches. Was woken by much stronger cramps at 4am which progressed quickly into labour level pains. It was absolute agony - as bad as I remember childbirth being but not as regular as contractions and not building in the same way. DH called an ambulance and I ended up with g&a and morphine for the pain. It was bloody awful - I powered through labour drug free with DS but was begging for the hard stuff this time! One heavy clot passed in hospital and the pain started to ease and by the time the morphine wore off it had completely gone. I was in a&e - not our mat unit - and the staff (particularly young female doctor) didn't have a clue how to handle me and it really didnt help the emotional trauma being treated like a lump of meat. Only the male paramedic gave me any sort of care or sympathy, just by having a kind manner, and I will always remember that.

Back home and resting now. Hope to heaven this is as bad as it gets.

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Meganlilly89 · 03/05/2015 11:31

So sorry to hear about last night mega.. Rest up today xx

I too had an awful evening ?? I had passed some big clots previously but yesterday evening I passed the 'sac' no mistaking it. Followed by an emotional breakdown ??

Tired today so we are having a lazy day, films and pjs Smile

Xxx

megarobotdiscoparty · 03/05/2015 11:47

Megan I'm so sorry, that must have been horrificly sad and really upsetting Sad Really hope this is it now for you - physically anyway, I know the heart will take a while to catch up.

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Meganlilly89 · 03/05/2015 11:50

Same goes to you aswell! The pains I have experienced at times have been very much similar to labour pains so I understand how you felt!

Take it easy today and fingers crossed it gets easier physically. I know emotionally it will take a while I do feel better for letting it all out last night but I'm just taking each day as it comes xxx

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