How did you know you were ready to try again?

[SandmanSlim]

Period arrived yesterday (after miscarriage in March) so I need to decide in the next few days whether on not to start trying straight away and I just don't know. My head says yes but I just feel scared and a sense of dread. Did you know you were emotionally ready? Did you start trying too quickly and regret it?

Hi Sandman I'm so sorry for your loss.

I've had 3 x mc's and fell pregnant again quite quickly afterwards.

It is terrifying but the only way you will get to hold your baby is to persevere.

Every single pregnancy, every single embryo and every single lining is completely unique and a fresh start.

You have a very good chance of having a normal pregnancy next time.

I'm gearing myself up for my 4th attempt after a 4 month break after 3rd mc. I had all the tests and they came back completely clear so there is absolutely nothing wrong with me

I just need to take a deep breath, believe it will be ok and take that leap.

It's hard, but you have a very good chance of being successful next time

Brummie, 3 sounds heart wrenching Really hope this is the one for you. I'm scared I won't bond with a new baby because I'm still upset about the last. I was so content for those 12 weeks and I am sad I won't be this time. I guess it'll be at least 4/5 weeks until I'm pregnant, so a bit more time and 4 more counselling sessions to get my head around it.

Do your counselling first, if it doesn't happen Can u deal with the negative tests ? It's been 7 months since my mmc and been trying since it happened n no luck, it don't help ur emotions so if there not ok yet make urself better first if u have 2 minds about it then don't pressure urself, I know that no matter how emotional I am/was I always knew next time will be more wanted than the first and that's hard to beat but it will and that helps me know that when it happens again that lil one will have the world.....all depends how u see it...number 2 is not a replacement for number 1, number 1 for some reason wasn't ok and wouldn't of had a good life, this one will , good luck with whatever u decide

Sorry to hear about your loss

We waited six months after our first miscarriage as I just couldn't face it again before then, then I fell pregnant pretty much straight away and miscarried again. It took me eight months to try again after that one. We went on to have a further four miscarriages and waited at least four months between each as I couldn't cope with any less time. Very luckily for us we had a happy ending when our seventh pregnancy ended in the birth of our precious daughter who is now three. I was almost 40 when she was born. When she was a year old I went through an early menopause so we are doubly lucky.

I think only you know when you are ready, you won't forget about the ones you have lost, just learn to live with it.