practical tips- waiting for miscarriage

[Autumn2014]

I had a scan at 9+ weeks. Baby measuring 7+5 and no heart beat. I've been advised to wait for conservative management for at least a week and up to 2 weeks if I want as per nice guidelines. If not then they will offer medical management.

went for the early scan on the advice of my Gp after having 2 periods of thick brown discharge. According to the sconographer the discharge is unrelated to the pregnancy loss and was because I have a biconorate uterus. The baby was in one horn and the bleeding in the opposite side.

I've not had a miscarriage before so not sure what to expect. I have had one previous pregnancy that wad delivered by c section at 31 weeks so I've not laboured before.

I've stocked up on big pads and pain killers on the advice of the epu. I'm a sahm. Will I be ok by myself? Will be able to look after my little boy? Take him to school etc?

I've got no bleeding or pain so not sure how lomg my body will hold onto this pregnancy.

Hi autumn I'm so sorry you are facing this. Everyone is different but in most cases you are not going to start heavily bleeding out of the blue, there will be some cramping and spotting first. I've had 4 miscarriages at 9-10 weeks and each has involved a short period of very heavy bleeding prior to passing the sac, during which I would not have wanted to be far away from my own bed and bathroom or in charge of a toddler. I would say carry on as normally as you can but have a contingency plan to call in DH/P or another adult if you start to miscarry. It would be good to have someone on hand just in case you felt you needed medical attention. I will find and bump the 'tips' thread so you can see the range of experiences.

Thanks for bumping the thread- it was just what I needed.

Don't have any family locally but will tell my husband to expect that I will need some help when the time comes.

sorry to read that you've experienced this 4 times.

Sorry to hear you're in this situation. I felt strangely ok while it was happening then had an emotional crash the week after, be kind to yourself for a long while.