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Not sure how to feel...

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girlgamergoesbad · 10/04/2015 11:13

Hi all,
first serious post on here, so forgive me if I don't know all the lingo! It's my first miscarriage and this was my first pregnancy and not sure how I should be feeling.
It hasn't been physically traumatic, and was a complete miscarriage. I just 24/7 cramps and felt crappy but I just feel so sad about what might have been. There's no way DP and I could have afforded to have a baby comfortably atm but we would have tried to make things work because we both really want to get a family started as soon as we can. A lot of my friends have children and my closest friend is pregnant so I'm pretty exposed to babies on social media and when I go to see friends etc. and right now that's difficult to think about without sort of having the "that should be me" feelings :/
I'm just not sure what to do and I've got final exams coming up and work to finish off and the thoughts are weighing me down.
Just really wanted to vent that out to someone and if anyone has any advice on how to deal with the emotional aftermath of miscarriage it'd be appreciated.

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Adventuregame · 10/04/2015 15:22

Hi girlgamer

What you're feeling is completely normal ! This was my firstpregnancy and I had a missed miscarriage and ended up having an ERPC op to complete it last week. I've been quite tearful on and off whenever I think about what could have been and what week I should be on etc.

I got my negative pregnancy test on Wednesday which has given me some closure.

I'm trying to focus on other things like decorating our house that we'd put on hold but I still think about the mc every day !!

There's some good threads on here that will help you through - i'll post some links

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