Missed miscarriage... the waiting game...

[Everhopefulforthefuture]

Hello

I started spotting on 22 March and had a missed miscarriage confirmed at my at my 12 week scan a few days later. The baby had no heartbeat and the development size was about 7 weeks.

I am a teacher and so decided I wanted to wait for a natural miscarriage to happen during the Easter holidays. If it didn't happen I wanted to use the medical management so it would be over before the start of the new term (I am starting two new part time teaching jobs after the holidays). Surgery was not advised for me as I have had a c section and also other abdominal surgery in the past 9 months. However, I really hoped things would happen naturally before now. They haven't.

I phoned the hospital today to say I was going to take the pessaries and they now want to see me again for a scan as I have been bleeding lightly every day. My local EPU is a terrible place. I have to wait for hours (along with everyone else) sat alongside other pregnant women going for routine scans with baby tv looping around in the background.

My husband suffers from depression and is finding things very difficult to cope. It is difficult for me to be upset in front of him because it just sends him down and he ends up putting himself to bed. My friends and family are very willing to help, but their experience of what I am going through is limited.

I suppose I just need somewhere to turn to for support. Has anyone been in a similar position? Do you know how long I may wait for a natural miscarriage? Is it possible my body has reabsorbed the pregnancy? So many questions.

I am starting to think I should have just taken the pessaries as soon as I had them as now I have drawn everything out and time is running out.

Oh dear. Sorry to moan and groan. I just feel very alone at the moment.

I am so sorry for everyone else on this board who is also suffering.

Hi everhopeful, so sorry you are going through this. Unfortunately it is a waiting game with these things. Do you have a date for going back in?

For me, I found to have a MMC on a Weds, booked for surgery on the Mon but lost naturally on the Saturday so it does happen but you may need help. Sounds like you have waited quite a long time without much movement.

EPUs have a lot to learn, mine is with the pregnant ladies too but no baby TV. Make sure you tell your hospital PALS as that is something you can help improve for other ladies that have to go through this.

Be kind to yourself, hope you have people to look after you too.

Thanks DulcetMoans.

I am feeling brighter today. My mum has come to stay and my husband bought me a magnolia tree to plant to remember our babies who didn't make it. (We had another miscarriage in the summer, but that happened naturally and straight away).

I returned to the EPU this morning. I am not sure if all EPUs operate this way, but my EPU does not schedule appointments. It is a drop in clinic, so each time you visit you have to sit and wait your turn, even for follow up appointments. And,yes! I have complained to PALS. They have been excellent in dealing with my complaint. Hopefully the system will be made better for others at some point in the future.

Today it was confirmed with a scan that nothing has changed and so I took the pessaries at home at 1pm. It is now nearly 5pm and nothing has happened, just very, very mild cramps.

I wonder if anyone else has experience with misoprostol pessaries and how long you had to wait for them to have effect? I have read that some people take another aural tablet before this. I was not offered anything else, other than pain killers.

Thank you.

Well, here's an update on my situation for anyone else who is researching medical management of missed miscarriage on the internet as I was...

About 2 minutes after writing the above post I went to the loo and passed the sac after having a wee. There was a bit of bleeding, but not very much, and no pain.

I do have indigestion though, although I did carry on eating my regular meals throughout the day. Rennie doesn't seem to be helping!

I guess it is just all evidence that the experience can be different for everyone.

I feel very relieved that it has all come to an end now. I'll pick myself up and carry on.

Wishing you all the best.

xxx

I an glad it wasn't too bad for you Ever

I found out yesterday that I had a missed miscarriage. Am bleeding slightly with small clots so I hope this is it.

I'm sorry for your news Wowser. I hope you are okay and have the support you need. Be kind and gentle to yourself.

xxx

Sorry for your loss ever and thanks for sharing your experience. I just found out at a scan today that I had a MMC at just before 7 weeks, about 2 weeks ago. I have just signed up for the medical management option, to be done on weds. It's reassuring that it wasn't painful or drawn out in your case. Best of luck for the future.

So sorry to hear of your loss Aaahcantthinkofagoodname (know the felling)! I hope things go okay for you on Wednesday. Again, look after yourself. And lets look to happier times ahead. xxx