Recovery after natural miscarriage

[LostInTheTriangle]

Hi,

I began spotting 6 days ago (Sat) at 9w, full on bleeding 4 days ago (Tues). Scan at EPU Wed showed baby died at 8w and I booked in for the ERPC the next day (Thurs).

I didn't end up having the operation because I passed the sac the afternoon after the scan and saw the foetus inside. The surgeon was happy to cancel the op and confident I had a complete miscarriage once I described what I had seen.

The blood loss was horrifying and went on for hours (actually passing all the tissue, was on the loo about 4 hours). I'm bleeding like a heavy period now and wiped out.

Those who have been through this...For how long did you feel like a zombie - physically speaking? I'm desperate to just get out of the house for a few hours, but can barely stand for longer than a couple of minutes.

I've been eating nourishing food and took some postnatal vitamins and spatone left over from my first pregnancy. This is my first miscarriage.

Thank you for any recovery tips or experiences. I'm usually a really active and fit person. Being so immobile just makes me replay everything in my head over and over and I keep reliving all the trauma of the week's events.

Thanks in advance.

triangle I'm so sorry you lost your baby. It's a horrendous thing to go through and it sounds like your experience was physically traumatic. Add heavy blood loss to the hormone crash and emotionally being put through the mill and it's no wonder you feel wiped out. I found Spatone very helpful, but other than that TLC and time, I would expect you'll feel better physically in a few days. It takes much longer to process it emotionally, most people need to work through a grieving process. I found it helpful to do something to mark the loss (plant a tree, write a letter/poem/blog, release balloon, light candle, choose jewellery, charity gift....) and just keep talking or writing about it.

You poor thing, sorry you are going through this

I had a very similar experience a few years ago, and had a fortnight off work following the actual miscarriage. But was pretty wiped for a while after that too.

Hope you are being well looked after.

Thank you. Your words have brought a tear to my eye.

My husband is rallying around looking after our daughter/dog but emotionally, it's his way to withdraw and not really talk about it. He feels awful that he was away during the worst of it.

I am periodically looking at the 'remains' and that's one of the reasons I need to get out of the house because yes, I want to commemorate the loss and buy a plant in which I can put the foetus. Maybe that's strange. I just look at it in wonder but it will be a relief when I can move it from its hiding place (husband doesn't want to see it).

Thank you again for taking the time to share your experiences.

So sorry for your hard times lostinthetriangle . I completely understand, it seems we've been going through the same thing at the same time. Hot water bottles and reading (ie distraction!) are helping me at the moment. It does help to get out for a walk but then I feel wiped out....back to the hot water bottle and book.
I like your idea of getting a special plant, I might do the same...it would be good to be able to do something proactive.
It's really hard, I sympathise and hope you start to feel better soon...

So sorry for your loss, lost - this was me exactly 1 year ago (yesterday was the anniversary of my MC, though the bleeding had started a full week before).

Rest, Nurofen and hot water bottles got me through the physical side. I stayed at home for 2 days after the actual MC but had to go out after that to go back to the EPU. I stayed by myself for the next few days, not wanting to see anyone, but by the end of that week I wanted to see my mum friends so went to a friends house and got together with them. It turned out one of them had had a MC two weeks before, talking about it openly with them was such a huge help and I'm so glad I opened up to people rather than not talking about it. i hope you have someone you can talk to about it

Thank you Marsh and Egg. I took it easy over the long weekend and am feeling much better, physically and mentally. I was/am shocked at the blood loss almost a week on. But the pain has gone. I also had to hit to ibuprofen to get through it.

Some teacher friends are on Easter Holidays this week, so planning a couple of catch ups. Other than that, I treated myself to three books on the Kindle and have been reading and reading to take my mind off things.

I really am doing better and thank you for your sharing your tips and experiences. Sorry for your losses and sorry to anyone reading this who is going through a loss.