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Grrr. (mini rant)

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evilfairy99 · 02/04/2015 17:17

Well after two weeks of bleeding and waiting for my hospital appointment I went in today.
After the past few days of my cramps and pain being worse, this morning I was ok. Had my scan and have one clot left. Was sent home with two doses of meds to try help pass it. Ive had both now and my cramps are barely touching what they were and its worrying me the tablets arent working.. Has anyone else had this?

On top of it not being a great day, my friends decided to tell me I was wrong in my approach. Her "opinion" is that I should of had the d & c straight off, and that the information I had been given about it was wrong. On top of this she acted as if I was foolish for choosing medical management. Absolutely infuriated. I appreciate people do things different way, but even when I explained why I initially couldnt have the d&c and why I was glad as I got to meet my little baby.. She completely disregarded it and was basically downright rude. Has anyone else had this with your "friends"?

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AuntieDee · 02/04/2015 17:23

I'm currently sat in hospital after having a D&C after two failed medical attempts. The amount I bled at home was an awful lot and the pain was quite intense so if you aren't having much loss or pain, give them a call. I was told for the first dose they normally give you 4 tablets and 2 for the second dose.

A lot of people have said to me that I was mad going for the medical option which upset me but after going through two lots and surgery, I'd opt for surgical next time. I had 3 days of 'labour' pains then a week of slow blood loss. The surgical has been pain free and I have felt so much more supported in hospital than at home. It's also nice to know that that baby is going to be cremated - I was a bit freaked out at the thought of flushing :(

I'm here with you xx

Must dash as the lovely hospital dinner is here and I've been nil by mouth...

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evilfairy99 · 02/04/2015 18:08

Ive passed the baby and an awful lot of clots.. Had him in the hospital two weeks ago with full blown contractions and pain meds etc.. Got to meet little Michael. Which I'm so grateful for.
Initially it was to pass the end of the clots, and now there is only one left .. Just one measily clot so in terms of that way I havent found it too traumatic as I got to see my baby and wasnt worried about passing in the toilet.

I'm so sorry for your loss and I hope you'll take it easy, and enjoy your dinner

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MissyMistress402 · 02/04/2015 18:17

Your friend was insensitive and rude. I am sorry for your loss. Bin the friend.

VixxFace · 02/04/2015 18:22

evil I am sorry for your loss. I am glad you got to meet your little Michael, take care of yourself Thanks

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evilfairy99 · 02/04/2015 23:13

Thank you.
I just needed to vent

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VixxFace · 02/04/2015 23:17

How are you feeling and have you got people around to support you?

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evilfairy99 · 03/04/2015 00:14

On a worrying side note.. I think I took the tablets wrong...
I was to take three and then three more 3 hours later.. I had them with water and took both sets.. Nothing has happened with this the way it did in the hosp two weeks ago( i had to take two every three hours in the hosp- 5 doses, bleeding and cramping went nuts, had our baby, had three more tablets to pass the end of clots and sent home)... I read the instructions a little while ago which i should of done in the first place .. And it says i should of let them dissolve under my tongue..not swallow them....(id swallowed in the hospital)
Is this going to affect how theyre absorbed? Does it mean they wont work?! I just want this clot out and at the minute im barely marking the pad with blood...

I feel ok otherwise and my other half is fab but this has me panicked as the tablets last time had me bleeding and cramping within an hour.

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AuntieDee · 03/04/2015 12:18

It will take longer swallowing them but it will still work. You can dissolve them under the tongue, swallow them or have them inserted as a pessary anally or vaginally - don't worry.

I'm hoping they have worked now xx

AuntieDee · 03/04/2015 12:18

And big hugs xx

jassS · 03/04/2015 13:09

Hugs and sorry for your loss. They will work if they are going to work, evne if you swallowed.
But sad truth is, sometimes the last clot does not come out because it is too strongly attached for medical mment to work. if it does not work out soon, I would demand a cleanout physically. ideally, before the cervix closes, to minimise the trauma.
Hope it will be over for you soon. And bthw, choosing surgical option does not guarantee an immidiate solution neither - I have just had second d&c to get rid of the last stubborn clot. anyway, it is everybody's own business to chose between these sad options and no one should say anything about it. Every woman, their body and mind, are different and what suits one is not suitable for others.

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evilfairy99 · 03/04/2015 13:47

Thanks everyone youve helped put my mind at ease.
Still nothing today but a pink sort of discharge with what I presume is the end of my lining.. Not a single cramp and no rush of blood.

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AuntieDee · 03/04/2015 13:55

The surgical management isn't horrific in the slightest and I would opt for it in future now. If you do have to go down the surgical route please don't worry

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evilfairy99 · 03/04/2015 14:42

Ive never been under anesthetic and im terrified of needles so it just freaks me out and is why i went for the medical route

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