Waking up screaming

[DiamondTrees1]

Hello all,

Almost 2 months ago I had a miscarriage and I was devastated. Since then partner has blamed me and he left. I feel so alone.
I don't know if it's normal to be grieving for this long, I think all I do is cry. I hold it together when I'm at work and then as soon as I'm on my own the tears come falling out.
I've been having nightmares about it and lately have been waking up at early hours of the morning screaming and in a crying fit.

I was in the process of moving out to be with partner but am currently living with 2 house mates. They have been very supportive but I don't know how much more they can handle. Several times I have been literally cradled by my male house mate until I'm calm or have fallen asleep, if the roles were reversed I wouldn't mind at all but I'm starting to feel like a burden.

I feel like I'm not ready to let go of my baby yet because it would have been so loved but the pain is physically hurting me and emotionally draining me and my house mates.

Has anyone had counselling on this matter before, does it help?

Thank you so much x

Hi so sorry for your loss, miscarriage is such a horrible thing to happen so you need as much support as possible. And as for your partner blaming you it's not your fault miscarriage happens and there is not a reason for it most of the time, I like to think of my losses as just plain bad luck to help me cope. After my second loss I had a good chat kinda like a counselling session with my doctor that helped me slightly, they recommended that I speak to the miscarriage association but I never did but it might help you. I still have good and bad days and reading these forums help me to cope also as I know I'm not alone in how i feel.
My first loss was in November which is 5months ago and I'm still not ready to get over it, there's no time limit on getting over a miscarriage I still think about it everyday but some days are better than others, just take each step as it comes and think positive, I found that self help books have also helped such as 'the secret'. Hope iv helped Xx

Hi,

Im so sorry to hear of your loss. It sounds very traumatic in what happened with your boyfriend afterwards. It does sound like PTSD - post traumatic stress disorder - where you are reliving it in your nightmares. I would defintly think that counselling or seeing your GP would help.

My miscarriage happened last week and Ive just seen my counsellor today.It really helps to talk about your feelings and make sense of it.

Your hospital pregnancy unit should have a contact number for a counsellor or you can find private ones online thorough the counselling directory. They do consessionary rates if cost is an issue.

Hope this helps x